Mar­riage from a bi­b­li­cal per­spec­tive

Brides Essence - - Contents - by Grant Der­rick

Where did mar­riage orig­i­nate? Many will claim one thing or the other but the in­sti­tu­tion of mar­riage was de­signed by God with a par­tic­u­lar pur­pose in mind. It all be­gan with Adam. Adam was cre­ated per­fect. He was cre­ated in the im­age and like­ness of God. This means that He had God’s good looks and also God’s na­ture.

All of cre­ation was cre­ated by the spo­ken word of God. There was only one crea­ture that was cre­ated dif­fer­ently, that is man. Gen­e­sis 2:7 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nos­trils the breath of life; and man be­came a liv­ing be­ing. (NKJ). God made mankind dif­fer­ently by form­ing him out of the dust of the earth. Per­haps God made a clay model of Adam? Then God did some­thing com­pletely dif­fer­ent to all the other cre­ated things and crea­tures, He breathed life into the model that He made of Adam. This makes hu­man be­ings the only crea­tures that God cre­ated with His hands and that He breathed His life into.

God cre­ated man to have fel­low­ship with Him. We know that God vis­ited Adam and pos­si­bly walked through the gar­den with him chat­ting about all man­ner of things. In Gen­e­sis we see the en­trance of the “other half”. Gen­e­sis 2:18 And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper com­pa­ra­ble to him. ”(NKJ). God no­ticed that Adam was lonely and de­cided to do some­thing about it. We see an­other anom­aly in the cre­ation process. God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and then, as the bi­ble says, took one of his ribs and used it to cre­ate a woman. So Eve, or woman was cre­ated from part of Adam and not from the dust of the earth.

Im­me­di­ately af­ter pre­sent­ing Eve to Adam, God says in Gen­e­sis 2:24 There­fore a man shall leave his fa­ther and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall be­come one flesh. (NKJ). I would guess that the part of Adam that was used to cre­ate Eve, the rib, gets re­united with Adam at mar­riage and the two parts to­gether be­come one whole, or one flesh.

So in the eyes of God, as is de­clared at ev­ery church wed­ding, the two be­come one flesh. Adam rep­re­sents men and Eve rep­re­sents women and when they wed they be­come one flesh, or a com­plete be­ing or en­tity. We know that math­e­mat­i­cally one plus one equals two. There­fore for the equa­tion to work it must be a half plus a half makes one. Mar­riage is the com­ple­tion or cre­ation of one whole en­tity.

What is the pur­pose of all this one might ask? It was to mul­ti­ply, pro­cre­ate, have lots of kid­dies in or­der to sub­due and re­plen­ish the earth. So then the orig­i­nal pur­pose of mar­riage was that the two halves that were sep­a­rated at cre­ation be re­united into one whole in or­der to re­pro­duce more halves.

The union of mar­riage not only ful­fils our cre­ated des­tinies but also is there to per­pet­u­ate the hu­man race. If, by mar­riage, the two be­come one flesh, then it is im­por­tant to take note of how de­struc­tive di­vorce is. It is al­most like a lam­i­na­tion process. If you have ever tried to sep­a­rate 2 ma­te­ri­als that have been lam­i­nated you will find that there is no clean way to do it with­out cre­at­ing a huge amount of dam­age to both of the orig­i­nal ma­te­ri­als. This is how mar­riage in­ter­twines both hus­band and wife and knits them to­gether.

We know that there has been a role re­ver­sal in house­holds in the last few

decades but this was not the orig­i­nal in­ten­tion. The roles of hus­band and wife are not in­ter­change­able. If you sim­ply look at it from a hormonal as­pect, the man has a dif­fer­ent set and ra­tio of hor­mones to the woman. Testos­terone makes the man bold, tough and hard while oe­stro­gen makes the woman car­ing, soft and ten­der. It is dif­fi­cult, near im­pos­si­ble for a man to ful­fil the role of a mother and in the same way it is nat­u­rally dif­fi­cult for a woman to ful­fil the role as a fa­ther. This is sim­ply by de­sign.

I be­lieve that a healthy fam­ily has both roles ful­filled and kids grow up with a bal­ance. Not to dis­re­spect sin­gle par­ents who have a huge task of ful­fill­ing both roles, this I find re­mark­able and wor­thy of men­tion.

Di­vorce is not part of the orig­i­nal plan. I am sure, if you re­mem­ber your wed­ding vows, or covenant, there is a clause which states “till death do us part”. The orig­i­nal plan was for mar­riage to last un­til one of the part­ners dies. This meant hav­ing to con­tin­u­ally work at keep­ing the mar­riage alive and tick­ing. The rea­son for such high di­vorce rates to­day is that we have lost sight of this im­por­tant fact and place less im­por­tance on the sanc­tity of mar­riage. The world around us also has a huge im­pact on this by con­tin­u­ally try­ing to make us dis­con­tent with what we have by pre­tend­ing to of­fer some­thing bet­ter. Men look to younger, health­ier, more at­trac­tive women. Ladies some­times look to a bet­ter provider or some­one who is more ap­peal­ing or maybe even phys­i­cally stronger.

It is wise to marry with in­tent. If you con­sider a mar­riage sim­ply as a con­tract that can be an­nulled or can­celled on a whim if things don’t work out the way you would like then why get mar­ried in the first place? I am not negat­ing di­vorce where abu­sive re­la­tion­ships harm people and chil­dren, or where in­fi­delity is rife. I am stat­ing that in light of the high di­vorce rate, mar­riage has lost a lot of its pur­pose.

So with this in mind, it is time to take stock of your in­tended union. Do you want to end up an­other statistic, or do you want to grow old with your spouse, and die with him or her at your side. These are per­ti­nent ques­tions and it would be a sober ap­proach to the de­ci­sion to get mar­ried.

Lastly, if you be­lieve that God in­vented, or­dained and blessed mar­riage, then know that your mar­riage will be blessed. As the sparks go up­ward, and the sea­sons re­main, so will your mar­riage be blessed. Some­times in or­der to find gold one has to sift through tons of gravel and muck, so the real trea­sure of mar­riage is some­times dis­guised as or­di­nary rock and mud. You just have to find the gems that are hid­den along the way and recog­nise them for what they are.

Live long and pros­per.

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