‘I AM ONLY 12, BUT AL­READY I FEEL LIKE A big girl’

When this girl was 11 years old, she was raped by her school­teacher, who threat­ened to kill her if she spoke out

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‘Iwas only 11 years old when my class teacher raped me. This was a man I trusted and looked up to. But he is not only my teacher; he is also my neigh­bour and a rel­a­tive. At school, he al­ways told me that he was in love with me. He told me that he would treat me good if I be­came his girl­friend. He bought me or­anges and bis­cuits. I told him he was too old to be say­ing these things to me and that I was not in­ter­ested.

One day he gave me R4 at school and said I must hang on to it be­cause he wanted to buy R5 air­time from my mum, who sells air­time in our vil­lage.

When I was at home, he phoned me and asked that I bring his R4. I did not see any­thing wrong. It was al­ready start­ing to be dark and I told my mother I would be back soon.

When I got to his home, he did not say any­thing about money. He just looked at me in a strange way. I asked him what was wrong. He did not say a word.

Then he made ad­vances and touched me. I told him to stop and that I would tell my mother, and that I would scream. He threat­ened to kill me and flee the vil­lage if I screamed or told any­one.

Then he raped me. I cried. I was scared and did not know what to do. Af­ter I had man­aged to es­cape, I went to an un­used room, where I tried to sleep. I could not sleep. I could hear my mother and grand­mother look­ing for me, and calling my name. I did not want to speak to any­one. I was ashamed. But I told my mother and she called the po­lice.

I don’t know why he did this to me. I was just 11 years old and in­no­cent. I am very scared of him. I don’t ever want to see him again af­ter what he did to me. He de­stroyed my life. I hate him. I want him to suf­fer and rot in jail for the dirty things he did to me. He is evil. I trusted him as my teacher, and an el­der.

I had to change schools to run away from him and to run away from the gos­sip­ing at school. My life has changed com­pletely. I try to be strong, but am still hurt­ing.

I can­not for­get what he did to me. I am al­ways cau­tious wher­ever I go and am not com­fort­able around men all the time. I am al­ways sus­pi­cious and scared. It’s hard.

I want to make a dif­fer­ence to oth­ers lives. I al­ways wanted to be a so­cial worker even be­fore this hap­pened. But now am more de­ter­mined to be one so that I can help oth­ers who go through the same thing.

My younger sis­ter is seven years old. I would not want this to hap­pen to her. It’s hor­ri­ble, but with time I am start­ing to deal with it and am get­ting stronger each day.

I am only 12 years old now, but al­ready I feel like a big girl.”

PHOTO: EL­IZ­A­BETH SEJAKE

THE LONG ROAD TO RE­COV­ERY The 12-year-old girl looks out of a win­dow at her grand­mother’s house in Bethany vil­lage in Du­tywa in the Eastern Cape

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20 Oc­to­ber 2013 A teacher has been ar­rested in con­nec­tion with the rape of an 11-year-old pupil in Du­tywa near But­ter­worth

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