‘My son is not a rapist’
“My son is not a rapist. He was involved with that girl. They were in a relationship. I don’t know how it can be possible that it can be called rape when people are in a relationship.”
The 51-year-old woman is speaking to City Press from her home in Bethany village, half-lying across a brown couch because she’s not feeling well.
She’s talking about her 25-year-old son, a teacher, and the 11-year-old girl he’s been accused of raping.
The woman agrees that it wasn’t ideal for her son to be romantically involved with such a young girl, but insists she had no idea what statutory rape was, or that her son was breaking the law by sleeping with an underage girl.
Her husband, the teacher’s father, is a policeman.
“I don’t know the law. All I know is that because these two were lovers, it was consensual and not rape as it was alleged. Though he is older than her, it is the young girl who threw herself at him.
“That girl was the one who went to my son’s place. She was not forced. It’s her mother who turned around and said her daughter was raped. The girl did not say that. How do you explain that? People are just jealous of us and my family, that is all.”
We’re speaking in a rondavel next to the woman’s home. She is the mother of seven. There’s a wall unit full of photos of the woman’s husband, the policeman. There’s also a wardrobe, a table, couches and a bed on the far side of the rondavel.
If we step outside, we can see the girl’s home. It’s separated by an empty field, smaller than a soccer pitch.
The woman is angry with the girl’s mother for “jumping the gun” by getting the police involved.
“This would have been resolved amicably if we had discussed things as family without getting outsiders involved. This was a family matter and it should have been treated as such. Now my son has lost his job as a teacher. He is in Cape Town, doing who knows what.”
After his arrest, the woman asked her son if he’d forced himself on the little girl. He said no. He said what they did was consensual.
She refused to give City Press her son’s contact details.
The man’s trial is due to start at the Willowvale Magistrates’ Court in the Eastern Cape on August 27. – Lubabalo Ngcukana
I don’t know the law. All I know is that because these two were lovers, it was consensual and not rape as it was alleged MOTHER OF ALLEGED RAPIST