LOBOLA IS OUT­DATED I

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to­tally un­der­stand why men used to pay for women in the past. His­tor­i­cally, the ma­jor­ity of women had no fi­nan­cial power and men had to sup­port them.

But why are we still ex­pect­ing them to do this to­day?

Women now drive ex­pen­sive cars, pay their own rent and buy prop­erty. Ev­ery­where you look, you see women with jobs, qual­i­fi­ca­tions and their own bank ac­counts.

These days, par­ents are ask­ing more than R200 000 for lobola and men can no longer af­ford it.

A few men even go to loan sharks to pay lobola. Maybe lobola is now ir­rel­e­vant since women can do it for them­selves.

I’ve also ob­served that to­day’s women can af­ford to pay lobola even if the hus­band-to-be can­not. We see wed­dings where the wife has paid for ev­ery­thing in the name of love. So­ci­ety needs to adapt to the fact that mod­ern women can af­ford it and are no longer as de­pen­dent on men as be­fore.

What wor­ries me more is the in­crease of sin­gle young moth­ers and ab­sent fathers. This cre­ates bad role mod­els in our so­ci­ety. This is why we have many bro­ken fam­i­lies and many street chil­dren. Chil­dren need both par­ents. To ed­u­cate a woman is to ed­u­cate a na­tion. Sta­tis­tics show that women are suc­cess­ful in uni­ver­si­ties and get top jobs. As men, we would like to say: Happy Women’s Month and Women’s Day to all the out­stand­ing women in South Africa.

PHOTO: KHAYA NG­WENYA

CAT­TLE CALL The writer thinks that lobola is ir­rel­e­vant to­day since women are do­ing it for them­selves

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