The backdoor taboo
comes from the fact that it is still considered to be quite “kinky” and, in some respects, this adds to the overall experience of exploring something a little alternative.
There are many nerve endings around the anal area and these will be stimulated by play and activity around that area.
This does not necessarily have to include penetration – but perhaps through manual or oral stimulation.
If you are going to try anal penetration, remember that what it does is indirectly stimulate the much-talked about G-spot. This can result in some great orgasms.
Suggested positions to try as a beginner include the “cowgirl” position, where the recipient is on top. This will allow you to control the speed and depth of the activity.
Anal sex can be painful, especially in the beginning. It’s important to ease yourself into it. If the pain becomes unbearable, stop. The point is to enjoy yourself and, if you’re not having fun, don’t do it.
There is some potential for things to get very messy.
But a little preparation beforehand can go a long way to ensuring mess-free fun. Anal sphincter muscles can, in some instances, be weakened by repetitive anal sex. However, as is the case with the vagina, this can be prevented or even reversed by doing Kegel exercises regularly.
These exercises involve tightening and releasing the muscles that you normally only use when putting urination on hold.
They are also beneficial to strengthen pelvic floor muscles or address incontinence. Fifteen repetitions three times a day will yield results in four to six weeks. SMS the keyword SEX and your question to 35697. You can also email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. SMSes cost R1.50. Please include your name and province