The back­door taboo

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comes from the fact that it is still con­sid­ered to be quite “kinky” and, in some re­spects, this adds to the over­all ex­pe­ri­ence of ex­plor­ing some­thing a lit­tle al­ter­na­tive.

There are many nerve end­ings around the anal area and these will be stim­u­lated by play and ac­tiv­ity around that area.

This does not nec­es­sar­ily have to in­clude pen­e­tra­tion – but per­haps through man­ual or oral stim­u­la­tion.

If you are go­ing to try anal pen­e­tra­tion, re­mem­ber that what it does is in­di­rectly stim­u­late the much-talked about G-spot. This can re­sult in some great or­gasms.

Sug­gested po­si­tions to try as a be­gin­ner in­clude the “cow­girl” po­si­tion, where the re­cip­i­ent is on top. This will al­low you to con­trol the speed and depth of the ac­tiv­ity.

Anal sex can be painful, es­pe­cially in the be­gin­ning. It’s im­por­tant to ease your­self into it. If the pain be­comes un­bear­able, stop. The point is to en­joy your­self and, if you’re not hav­ing fun, don’t do it.

There is some po­ten­tial for things to get very messy.

But a lit­tle prepa­ra­tion be­fore­hand can go a long way to en­sur­ing mess-free fun. Anal sphinc­ter mus­cles can, in some in­stances, be weak­ened by repet­i­tive anal sex. How­ever, as is the case with the vagina, this can be pre­vented or even re­versed by do­ing Kegel ex­er­cises regularly.

These ex­er­cises in­volve tight­en­ing and re­leas­ing the mus­cles that you nor­mally only use when putting uri­na­tion on hold.

They are also ben­e­fi­cial to strengthen pelvic floor mus­cles or ad­dress in­con­ti­nence. Fif­teen rep­e­ti­tions three times a day will yield re­sults in four to six weeks. SMS the key­word SEX and your ques­tion to 35697. You can also email us at trend­ing@city­ SMSes cost R1.50. Please in­clude your name and province

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