veryone can be impatient from time to time; it’s part of our nature. But there are some people who can’t seem to wait for anything and, on the surface, seem to get an insane amount done. The reality, though, is that if you dig deeper into the minds and actions of these overly successful grinders, there is going to be a very calculated practice of patience buried in their nature.
Let’s look at a handful of times when patience is key:
As entrepreneurs, we think that opportunity can be found anywhere, and as we get more adept at awareness, opportunities seem to constantly come out of the woodwork. The problem with this, commonly referred to as “shiny object syndrome”, is that it’s tempting to chase each opportunity that comes our way. But that’s devastating – the more you split up your time, the less you’ll be able to focus on each opportunity.
It’s exceptionally important that you take your time, be patient and choose the right opportunity to pursue because, regardless of what you pick, you’re going to be spending an inordinate amount of time doing it.
Sure, some people learn faster than others, but when helping your people to develop and advance inside your organisation, it’s considerably more beneficial for them to learn on their own through experiential situations than to learn from training manuals, or from just getting the answers from you.
Yes, there are some things that aren’t worth the time required to create experiential learning opportunities (such as how to log into the admin system, or clock in and out), but setting the basic or minimum job duties aside, you’ll have a lot more success by answering questions with questions that lead them down a path to discovering the answer on their own – commonly referred to as the Socratic teaching method – which requires some patience. Think of it more like an investment.
Far too often, you’ll have a conversation with someone you’ve just met, and in the first 30 seconds, the dreaded question comes out: “So, what do you do?”
This is one of the worst ways to get to know someone new, and just screams “I’m only interested in getting something of value from you”.
The truth is that the age-old adage “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” is absolutely valid, and the only way you’re going to create a network that allows you to accomplish amazing things in a shorter period of time is by being patient and building lasting relationships with others who have been more successful than you.
It’s really that simple, and the second you become impatient and make an “ask” too early – before you have a real relationship – you’ve blown it.
When looking for new opportunities
While developing your team
When building relationships