Men just want a ‘side dish’
Ayanda Msibi Gauteng
People don’t get married any more in South Africa and, if they do, they enter into a marriage where one partner is unfaithful. I think it has become a kind of fashion for men to have “side dishes”. All the men I know who are in relationships have “side dishes”, or engage in sexual activity with strangers they meet on social networks and dating sites.
I think this behaviour is very disturbing and I ask myself what is going on in a society that allows men to live life on the edge, hurting women, breaking up families and spreading sexually transmitted diseases?
Have our men become so single-minded that they live their lives to satisfy their sexual desires and fantasies?
So many women are single working mothers today. Men go around making babies they can’t even support – and support goes beyond just signing a cheque each month.
Why are women expected to settle for these selfish men who think they can act like they are single?
As a black woman, I am very disappointed with black South African men. We have just become their playthings – women who care for them and love them, but get nothing except heartache in return.