Gi­gaba’s home af­fairs aired as ‘mis­tress’ talks

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Home Af­fairs Min­is­ter Malusi Gi­gaba was the talk of the town this week as his al­leged New York-based side dish pub­lished a let­ter de­tail­ing her al­leged af­fair with the mar­ried man.

Stylist Buhle Mkhize claimed, in her open let­ter, that Gi­gaba was the one who ini­ti­ated the af­fair.

She claimed Gi­gaba sent her pri­vate, flir­ta­tious mes­sages on In­sta­gram, that she only found out on so­cial me­dia that he was mar­ried, and that he pleaded with her to stay in their re­la­tion­ship. She claimed the only rea­son he got mar­ried was be­cause he wanted to “suc­ceed po­lit­i­cally and be­cause he had kids with Noma and it wouldn’t be the right im­age for him to have the record of an ugly di­vorce and then a baby mama”.

She also al­leged that, just af­ter his hon­ey­moon, Gi­gaba told her he loved her, and that af­ter the al­le­ga­tions of the af­fair hit so­cial-me­dia sites, Gi­gaba made ar­range­ments with in­tel­li­gence agen­cies to have R500 000 given to Mkhize in ex­change for her si­lence.

Her si­lence was needed be­cause Gi­gaba’s wife, Noma, was al­ready hav­ing it out pub­licly with the al­leged side chick. The spat saw Noma ac­cuse Mkhize of pur­su­ing her hus­band. She called her “a pros­ti­tute”.

In a state­ment re­leased af­ter the let­ter went pub­lic, Gi­gaba said: “My fam­ily, in par­tic­u­lar my wife, have been sub­jected to a pro­tracted cam­paign of pub­lic em­bar­rass­ment and cy­ber­ha­rass­ment. I re­gret ex­pos­ing my fam­ily to such an in­di­vid­ual, but truly can only blame my­self. The defama­tion has left me no op­tion but to speak out and seek le­gal reme­dies to pro­tect my loved ones.”


Noma told City Press: “I don’t want to en­ter­tain this.” Mkhize did not re­spond to re­quests for com­ment.

After the scan­dal broke, City Press went to other women who had al­legedly been cheated on to ask them how they found out about what their hus­bands were do­ing.

Seipati Monama (36) told City Press how she caught her hus­band – she was busy load­ing gro­ceries into a trol­ley when she no­ticed her three-year-old son smil­ing and wav­ing at a woman she did not recog­nise.

She told her son to stop en­ter­tain­ing strangers.

The lit­tle boy replied: “She is not a stranger; don’t you know her? It’s Aunty Nono.”

Sud­denly, she re­mem­bered that a Nono once called her hus­band but hung up when she an­swered. When she con­fronted her hus­band about the call, he be­came de­fen­sive and ac­cused her of ma­li­cious in­ten­tions be­fore storm­ing out of the house.

“As I stood in the queue wait­ing to pay, that scene kept play­ing in my mind,” she said. “My son told me that his dad took him to Aunty Nono’s beau­ti­ful house, where he played with her son, who is the same age as him.”

She added that she wanted to look for Nono in the shop and pum­mel her.

“But I told my­self that it wasn’t re­ally her fault, but my hus­band’s. He is the one who left our home and chased af­ter this woman.”

But mis­tresses also have their side of the story, as Mkhize’s let­ter has shown.

Xola Menzi says she can re­late be­cause she met a hand­some man at an in­dus­try func­tion and didn’t know he was mar­ried. He was smart, good look­ing and had a swag­ger about him she says she couldn’t re­sist.

In the weeks that fol­lowed, ro­mance blos­somed and Menzi fell for the dash­ing, well-spo­ken man.

The 27-year-old smiles when she de­scribes the long talks they had, how they planned their ca­reers to­gether and how com­pat­i­ble they were.

“But my demise has al­ways been my cu­rios­ity. So I did a bit of re­search on the guy,” she said.

Menzi found out that the man was mar­ried, with a “pre­cious” daugh­ter. He had an­other life he had never men­tioned or even hinted at.

On their next date, Menzi asked if she was his mis­tress. He de­nied it. That evening, back at her house, Menzi found the man’s wed­ding ring in his car and his phone kept ring­ing.

“He didn’t want to an­swer it, but I forced him to. That night, he left at 3am. I knew he was go­ing to his wife. I didn’t know whether to sim­ply leave him or tell his wife about his ways,” she added.

“But I couldn’t bring my­self to tell her.”

– Staff

Malusi Gi­gaba

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