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The fam­ily friend

CityPress - - Tenders -

You’re tempted to say: “I would have fired you months ago if I weren’t so ner­vous about see­ing you at fam­ily func­tions.”

In­stead, say this: “I need to end our busi­ness re­la­tion­ship for th­ese spe­cific rea­sons, but I hope this does not af­fect or dam­age our per­sonal re­la­tion­ship. I know this might re­flect on our per­sonal lives, so let’s talk about it.”

It’s im­por­tant be­cause, while you typ­i­cally don’t want to in­vite long con­ver­sa­tion when fir­ing a client, fir­ing a friend or fam­ily mem­ber re­quires a dif­fer­ent eti­quette. Since the re­la­tion­ship is not end­ing en­tirely, you want to give them the op­tion of air­ing any griev­ances and ar­gu­ments now, rather than at the next fam­ily party.

Keep in mind that you’ll need to es­tab­lish some guide­lines on your fu­ture re­la­tion­ship, whether it’s agree­ing not to talk to mu­tual friends about the sit­u­a­tion or set­ting a time to see each other per­son­ally. While you are tak­ing own­er­ship of end­ing the re­la­tion­ship, let them take the lead on how to re­con­nect on a per­sonal level.

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