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The con­ver­sa­tion be­gan with Mas­ter and Mis­tress ex­plain­ing to me just what BDSM is. It stands for a rather long list of things: bondage and dis­ci­pline; dom­i­nance and sub­mis­sion; and sadism and masochism; and is ba­si­cally a way of cre­at­ing sex­ual plea­sure. There are many stereo­types about it.

“BDSM is per­ceived to be dark and evil,” the leather-clad temptress tells me, “but it is far from it.” Mis­tress Kink ex­plains that it is the con­straint of a so­ci­ety, where cer­tain acts and ways of life are frowned upon, that is the real prob­lem. She points to a paint­ing in her liv­ing room that de­picts a woman in dif­fer­ent forms.

“She sur­ren­ders her­self to her dom­i­nant side and thus frees her­self. Fifty Shades of Grey and other non­sense lead us to be­lieve it’s all about whips, chains and sex­ual slav­ery.”

That is part of it, but BDSM is mainly about free­ing your­self to live out your fan­tasies (as long as it is with a con­sent­ing

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