The conversation began with Master and Mistress explaining to me just what BDSM is. It stands for a rather long list of things: bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; and sadism and masochism; and is basically a way of creating sexual pleasure. There are many stereotypes about it.
“BDSM is perceived to be dark and evil,” the leather-clad temptress tells me, “but it is far from it.” Mistress Kink explains that it is the constraint of a society, where certain acts and ways of life are frowned upon, that is the real problem. She points to a painting in her living room that depicts a woman in different forms.
“She surrenders herself to her dominant side and thus frees herself. Fifty Shades of Grey and other nonsense lead us to believe it’s all about whips, chains and sexual slavery.”
That is part of it, but BDSM is mainly about freeing yourself to live out your fantasies (as long as it is with a consenting