When little Timmy walks in on you
There’s nothing more awkward than your kids walking in on you when you’re having sex. To avoid that happening, a lock should be used on your bedroom door once they are at an age where they are able to walk on their own. Not only will you avoid the uncomfortable conversation that’s bound to follow after they witness you, it will also put your mind at ease and allow you to relax during sex.
In the event that your child does walk in on you, here are a few guidelines on how to handle the situation. Depending on your child’s age, their understanding of what they see will vary. Children younger than three may not fully understand what they have seen. It is easier with this age group to get away with saying “mommy and daddy were hugging or play wrestling”.
With children over three, it is important to first establish exactly what it is they saw and heard before dealing with the situation. Ask them. To foster a healthy attitude towards sex in your child, don’t be too embarrassed that you were caught having sex, as you have done nothing wrong and this should be clear to your child. They should also not be made to feel guilty for having walked in on you. They too have done nothing wrong.
Confront the situation by answering any and all questions they may have. Be honest and factual in your answers. Explain that sex is normal between adults. Not all children will feel comfortable enough to ask questions, so an explanation from you may be necessary. Don’t give away too many details and confuse them by using language they won’t understand. Remain calm and avoid sounding uncomfortable.
In the instance of teenagers walking in on you, an explanation of what sex is may not be necessary, as it is assumed that you would have had some conversations with them about it and they’ve probably figured out a lot for themselves already. They are likely to feel most uncomfortable at this age, especially if they don’t see their parents being affectionate and kissing on a normal basis. An apology from you, saying you should have locked the door, can be a great way to initiate the conversation. Depending on your child’s attitude towards sex at this age, they may shy away from the conversation. Don’t overexplain and make them feel unnecessarily uncomfortable by pushing them to talk more than they want to. Again, do it without coming across as embarrassed. You were caught doing something perfectly natural and have nothing to be ashamed of. Don’t, under any circumstance, dismiss the event and pretend nothing happened. It is important to address it.