THE LIFE OF THE blessed

+ HOW TO BE A BLESSER JOONJI MDYOGOLO ON THE SE­CRET CUR­RENCY OF LOVE

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Amanda Cele (27) has been “blessed” for more than a year now. She has no re­grets about her life­style – be­cause her two wealthy blessers spoil her.

They give her a monthly al­lowance of up to R20 000, pay the rent for her flat, and buy her hand­bags and shoes from high-end brands like Louis Vuit­ton. Life is good.

“I can­not set­tle for dat­ing a boyfriend who can­not af­ford my life­style. I will never, ever date a man who is broke. If you come to me, you must know your pocket,” says the proudly “blessed” woman.

Dressed in skinny jeans and pink stilet­tos, and sport­ing a Peru­vian weave and Ver­sace sun­glasses, Cele is not both­ered that some peo­ple com­pare the blessed to pros­ti­tutes.

“Peo­ple can call it what­ever they want. As long as I can sleep well at night, I am happy,” she says.

Cele, who is un­em­ployed, was born in Um­lazi, south­west Dur­ban, in KwaZulu-Na­tal. She re­cently moved to a flat in Midrand which one of her blessers pays for.

She drives a Mercedes, which the other blesser lent her. She ex­pects no less of them. Her two blessers are prom­i­nent busi­ness­men, but she prefers not to men­tion their names, re­veal­ing only that they are well known. “I do not want to ruin their rep­u­ta­tions,” she says. Ac­cord­ing to gos­sip blog iMzansi, Cele was se­verely as­saulted by one of her blessers’ wives; her weave was pulled out and she was left nurs­ing a black eye. But she de­nies this.

“It is not true. Do you see a black eye on my face?” she says.

When asked what ex­actly her blessers pay for, she is slightly on the de­fen­sive in her re­ply: “It is not all the time that they pay for sex.

“Some­times they just want a tro­phy [woman] to take wher­ever they hap­pen to be go­ing.

“You must re­mem­ber that most of these men are not happy in their mar­riages. They are look­ing for some­one young like me to en­ter­tain them.”

Al­though many crit­i­cise her, fam­ily mem­bers re­spect her de­ci­sion, she says.

“They are not judg­ing me. They know I do not have a payslip, so where do they think I get money from to main­tain my lux­ury life­style?” she asks. She sends money back home to Dur­ban ev­ery month. “I did not sud­denly wake up and de­cide to be a blessee. I was in a four-year re­la­tion­ship and the man I was dat­ing was twice my age,” she says, adding that he, too, was a prom­i­nent busi­ness­man. “I have al­ways at­tracted high-pro­file peo­ple,” she laughs.

“Ev­ery­thing was fine un­til we moved in to­gether. He started to show me his other side.

“I could not han­dle the fact that he was cheat­ing on me and was no longer sleep­ing at home,” she says, adding that she got to a point where she be­came so mis­er­able, she had no choice but to leave him.

It was then that she de­cided to dis­in­vest emo­tion­ally from re­la­tion­ships and be­come a blessee.

Re­call­ing her first lov­ing re­la­tion­ship, she says that it was with her child­hood sweet­heart. They have an eight-year-old daugh­ter, who lives with him.

The two men cur­rently in her life can be clas­si­fied as “level-three” blessers, be­cause they take her on over­seas hol­i­days and pro­vide her with a monthly al­lowance.

“I have a salary but I am not work­ing,” she says, proudly.

“Why should I bother look­ing for a job when I am earn­ing?” How­ever, she ad­mits that, de­spite hav­ing ac­cepted that these men have no in­ten­tion of ever mar­ry­ing her, she some­times be­comes too at­tached to them.

“I know most of them are not look­ing for a re­la­tion­ship and that they will never leave their wives for a blessee,” she says.

“They will spoil you, know­ing that they have no in­ten­tion of mar­ry­ing you.” Her ad­vice to other blessees? “Do not let it be just about ex­pen­sive clothes and drink­ing Cham­pagne. Be wise: use the money to study.”

Cele has ob­tained a cer­tifi­cate in beauty ther­apy from Beauty Palace in the Vaal, thanks to blessers’ money.

“I am not just a pretty face. Should things go wrong, I can still go back and con­tinue with my stud­ies.”

She says that one day she would like to set­tle down, get mar­ried and raise her daugh­ter.

“But for now, I am en­joy­ing be­ing a blessee. I am not ready to be some­one’s wife.”

I know most of them are not look­ing for a re­la­tion­ship and that they will never leave their wives for a blessee

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