Dipolelo and his fiancée, Eunice, have been planning their wedding since last year. Although they have been living together with their eight-year-old son, the couple feels it is time to make it official. Dipolelo is the main breadwinner as Eunice is not employed, although she has completed a diploma in office management. Dipolelo has been the one putting away savings for the wedding, but most of the income will come from his bonus, which he will receive this month.
The wedding is important to Eunice. She knows she wants to spend the rest of her life with Dipolelo. But she does feel unhappy that she is unable to contribute financially. She would have loved to share some of the expenses, but she needs to understand that she has played an important role by supporting her fiancé. She has stood by Dipolelo by making sure he saves what he has committed to and, by being part of the budgeting process, she understands the limits on the household finances. They have shared their goal of saving for the wedding.
The couple has discussed the wedding plan thoroughly and agreed on what they both want. Dipolelo has asked a delegation of elders from his family to contact Eunice’s family to start lobola negotiations and his family will present themselves in July to properly ask for her hand in marriage.
Following this celebration, there will be another where Eunice’s family will accept their son-in-law and introduce Dipolelo’s family traditionally. This expense will fall on Eunice’s family. Dipolelo’s family will also acknowledge Eunice’s family traditionally, where a goat or a cow will be slaughtered, depending on how big the celebration will be. Gifts will be exchanged between the families and Dipolelo will pay for this.
Dipolelo and Eunice have not cut many corners and plan on having a wonderful celebration. For example, the outfits for the wedding are ready and include their son’s, which will match with the couple’s, yet none of this cost is coming from Dipolelo’s salary or putting them in debt. Through #MoneyMakeover, Dipolelo has been getting his finances in shape, paying off his debts and starting to invest. So, I think it is safe to say the couple is emotionally and financially ready for the traditional wedding.