PLAN­NING YOUR

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Dipolelo and his fi­ancée, Eu­nice, have been plan­ning their wed­ding since last year. Although they have been liv­ing to­gether with their eight-year-old son, the cou­ple feels it is time to make it of­fi­cial. Dipolelo is the main bread­win­ner as Eu­nice is not em­ployed, although she has com­pleted a diploma in of­fice man­age­ment. Dipolelo has been the one putting away sav­ings for the wed­ding, but most of the in­come will come from his bonus, which he will re­ceive this month.

The wed­ding is im­por­tant to Eu­nice. She knows she wants to spend the rest of her life with Dipolelo. But she does feel un­happy that she is un­able to con­trib­ute fi­nan­cially. She would have loved to share some of the ex­penses, but she needs to un­der­stand that she has played an im­por­tant role by sup­port­ing her fi­ancé. She has stood by Dipolelo by mak­ing sure he saves what he has com­mit­ted to and, by be­ing part of the bud­get­ing process, she un­der­stands the lim­its on the house­hold fi­nances. They have shared their goal of sav­ing for the wed­ding.

The cou­ple has dis­cussed the wed­ding plan thor­oughly and agreed on what they both want. Dipolelo has asked a del­e­ga­tion of el­ders from his fam­ily to con­tact Eu­nice’s fam­ily to start lobola ne­go­ti­a­tions and his fam­ily will present them­selves in July to prop­erly ask for her hand in mar­riage.

Fol­low­ing this cel­e­bra­tion, there will be an­other where Eu­nice’s fam­ily will ac­cept their son-in-law and in­tro­duce Dipolelo’s fam­ily tra­di­tion­ally. This ex­pense will fall on Eu­nice’s fam­ily. Dipolelo’s fam­ily will also ac­knowl­edge Eu­nice’s fam­ily tra­di­tion­ally, where a goat or a cow will be slaugh­tered, de­pend­ing on how big the cel­e­bra­tion will be. Gifts will be ex­changed be­tween the fam­i­lies and Dipolelo will pay for this.

Dipolelo and Eu­nice have not cut many cor­ners and plan on hav­ing a won­der­ful cel­e­bra­tion. For ex­am­ple, the out­fits for the wed­ding are ready and in­clude their son’s, which will match with the cou­ple’s, yet none of this cost is com­ing from Dipolelo’s salary or putting them in debt. Through #MoneyMakeover, Dipolelo has been get­ting his fi­nances in shape, pay­ing off his debts and start­ing to in­vest. So, I think it is safe to say the cou­ple is emo­tion­ally and fi­nan­cially ready for the tra­di­tional wed­ding.

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