A FEW THINGS TO CON­SIDER

CityPress - - Business -

1 If you were un­happy be­fore you got the fancy car, you will still be un­happy af­ter the ex­cite­ment of get­ting it wears off, so pri­ori­tise happiness.

I often ask peo­ple to write down five things that make them happy, and to ex­clude money, be­cause money is a tool to help you get what makes you happy. Often, peo­ple strug­gle to come up with five points, which is puz­zling be­cause peo­ple want to be happy, but they do not know what makes them happy.

Meet­ing your emo­tional needs of love, sig­nif­i­cance, con­tri­bu­tion, va­ri­ety, se­cu­rity and growth will make you happy, and this is all in­ter­nal work – not ex­ter­nal.

Many peo­ple as­sume that driv­ing a fancy car de­notes a suc­cess­ful, happy ex­is­tence, but if you lack self-love, which then spills over to oth­ers, ma­te­rial things can have very lit­tle mean­ing. So it is about self-worth, not net-worth; and in­ter­de­pen­dence, not in­de­pen­dence. 2 If you build your self-worth, your net-worth will in­crease. So in­stead of ac­quir­ing a life­style, build your­self into a per­son who can at­tract the kind of life­style you de­sire be­cause of the per­son you have be­come. The hap­pi­est peo­ple sel­dom judge them­selves by what they own, but by who they are.

If your self-image re­quires that you own some­thing so you feel wor­thy or bet­ter, then you need to work on build­ing an in­ter­nal ca­pac­ity of wor­thi­ness.

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