Am I a bad friend, brother and son?

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The rev­e­la­tions of how many times a for­mer MP and a paras­tatal CEO vis­ited a cer­tain com­pound in Sax­on­wold have made me re­think whether I am a good friend, brother and son. This is why: Not long ago, I was in Cape Town for a week-long hol­i­day. I did not call any of my friends in that repub­lic or pop in at their houses for din­ner or drinks.

In July, we hap­pened to be in Dur­ban while ac­com­pa­ny­ing my el­dest son, who was play­ing soc­cer in an Un­der-13 tour­na­ment. We ex­tended the stay af­ter the games ended on the Wed­nes­day, and only vis­ited one friend and brother of mine.

At a walk­ing dis­tance from my sons’ school lives an­other friend and brother. I last saw him at the end of May when I was co­erced to cel­e­brate my birth­day. An­other friend and brother, although he lives on the other side of Jo­han­nes­burg (but still not too far) was last seen at the party. My fa­ther works and lives in Pre­to­ria, while my mother and my sib­lings are in Mpumalanga. I see them at least once a month or ev­ery sec­ond month.

So, the news that then MP Des van Rooyen was in Jozi last De­cem­ber and vis­ited the Gupta fam­ily com­pound for seven con­sec­u­tive days and that Eskom CEO Brian Molefe and Ajay Gupta had called each other at least 58 times in nine months made me ask my­self: “Am I a good friend and do I talk to or see my friends and fam­ily of­ten enough?” My an­swer is yes, I am gen­er­ally a good per­son and I do not need to see or talk to them daily to show that I care for, adore and love them. My friends and fam­ily know it too.

While we wait for rea­sons for Van Rooyen’s many vis­its and Molefe’s calls to a client of Eskom (maybe he was as­sur­ing them that the com­pound wouldn’t be af­fected by load shed­ding), I just re­alised that I hadn’t called my friend and brother who cur­rently lives in Dur­ban and will soon re­lo­cate to Tsh­wane, to wel­come him back.

Am I a bad friend, brother and son?

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