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As women be­come more fi­nan­cially in­de­pen­dent, will the rules change around who spoils whom on Valentine’s Day? Through Twit­ter chats and dis­cus­sions with sin­gle friends and those in com­mit­ted re­la­tion­ships, it seems like men still ex­pect to pay on Valentine’s Day.

Craig, who has been liv­ing with his girl­friend for two years, told me that he al­ways pays. “I feel like I want to spoil her on Valentine’s Day. I will pay for the meal, but usu­ally the next time we go out, she in­sists on pay­ing. I just re­ally see it as a gift, not an obli­ga­tion.”

He adds that he loves the fact that ev­ery Valentine’s Day, his girl­friend buys him a red rose. “You also don’t want to be taken for granted.”

The other view seems to be that who­ever asked the other out is the one who will pay. In a het­ero­sex­ual re­la­tion­ship, this tends to still be the man – women’s lib has not gone so far that it is com­mon­place for women to ask men out on a date, al­though as I was re­li­ably in­formed by a Twit­ter fol­lower that a woman can ask a man out on Fe­bru­ary 29, “and then she must pay for the date”.

And then there is Leonard, who is ab­so­lutely de­fin­i­tive on the sub­ject: “A man must pay. It is un­ac­cept­able in my books. Women shouldn’t be pay­ing in the first place, what hap­pened to chivalry?”

When I asked why he felt this way, he replied: “Be­cause it is very im­po­lite to ex­pect your lady friend to look good for the date, like if she buys sexy lin­gerie, and then also pay for din­ner.” For Leonard, the roles, and ex­pec­ta­tions, are clearly de­fined.

– Maya Fisher-French

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