Can you find love on so­cial me­dia?

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It started with Lebogang Kganyago ac­cept­ing a Face­book friend­ship re­quest from a stranger in 2008. Four years later, she found her­self madly in love with the same stranger.

“He liked my pho­tos and com­mented on my Face­book posts reg­u­larly. Then he got my num­ber on my in­for­ma­tion list and con­tacted me,” Kganyago says.

The suitor didn’t ini­tially re­veal his true in­ten­tion when he con­tacted the IT spe­cial­ist and they started hang­ing out as friends.

“We went for a movie at a mall the first time we saw each other,” she re­calls.

The friend­ship de­vel­oped into a ro­man­tic re­la­tion­ship and it has lasted to this day.

Kganyago says she was not scared when she met him face-to-face for the first time.

“We had been Face­book friends for a few years and were used to each other. He told me about his back­ground and I dis­cov­ered we ac­tu­ally at­tended the same Catholic school, although we never met each other there.”

“I didn’t tell anyone about it be­cause I had learnt to know and trust him,” she says.

Kganyago and her part­ner are hop­ing to take their re­la­tion­ship to the next level soon.


Find­ing love on Face­book wasn’t weird for Mogau Sebeka. The me­dia per­son­al­ity had seen one of her friends walk­ing down the aisle with a man she had met on a so­cial-me­dia plat­form.

So, when she re­ceived a Face­book mes­sage from an on­line friend who con­stantly showed in­ter­est in her pic­tures and posts ask­ing for a date, she gave him a chance.

Af­ter a few on­line and off­line chats, Sebeka and her beau let love do its thing.

Un­for­tu­nately, she soon found out that the guy had omit­ted im­por­tant in­for­ma­tion about his pre­vi­ous ro­man­tic es­capades.

He had told her he had one child. But Sebeka in­ves­ti­gated fur­ther and dis­cov­ered he had sev­eral chil­dren with dif­fer­ent women and had pre­vi­ously dated her friend.

“I dumped him. I re­alise that what peo­ple por­tray on so­cial me­dia is not who they truly are,” she says.

She urges women to do a proper back­ground check on suit­ors they meet on so­cial me­dia.

“If a per­son is a mu­tual friend be­tween you and your friends, let them know that this guy ap­proached you so that you avoid dat­ing your friend’s ex or cur­rent part­ner,” she says.


Add the per­son as a Face­book friend and fol­low him or her on In­sta­gram Do a “back­ground check” on Face­book and In­sta­gram Com­ment on his or her posts of­ten. Like a pic­ture or two, but not old ones – this will make you seem like a stalker! Wait to see if you get any likes in re­turn.

If you don’t get any likes back – hold off for a while. If you get one or more likes back, fol­low up and with a short pri­vate mes­sage on Face­book chat, such as: “Hello, how was your day to­day?”

If the pri­vate con­ver­sa­tion goes well, ask for their tele­phone num­ber.

Ar­range to meet in a pub­lic place so that you don’t scare them.

Source: Te­lenor Norway

Mogau Sebeka

Lebogang Kganyago

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