Is it tough being a sin­gle fa­ther?

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Kholek­ile Bat­shise via SMS Being a sin­gle fa­ther does not bother me at all. I am the fa­ther of a 24-year-old young man and a 19year-old daugh­ter. Their mother passed away in 2009. They were still young, but I never strug­gled be­cause it is my re­spon­si­bil­ity to give them parental sup­port. Even now, we still do things to­gether. I lis­ten to their views when they raise them. I thank God that they never gave me prob­lems as far as dis­ci­pline is con­cerned. Tsiu via SMS My son Tshitso is 18 years old and was home-schooled un­til De­cem­ber last year. I have been a pri­mary par­ent since April 2011. Most friends be­came ac­quain­tances as I as­sumed more re­spon­si­bil­ity. I was a mod­er­ate so­cial drinker be­fore then and con­verted to being a non-drinker. For­tu­nately, I had been a com­mit­ted non-smoker for years be­fore his birth. These traits helped me to be, hope­fully, a good role model for him. When he turned 18, I in­tro­duced him to al­co­hol and smok­ing of­fi­cially, but he de­clined the of­fer. My late fa­ther made the same of­fer to me at al­most the same age. The ex­per­i­ment lasted for less than a year as I saw no ben­e­fits from those habits. The dis­ad­van­tage of home-school­ing is that so­cial­is­ing for him is al­most zero. I now have the task of grad­u­ally in­tro­duc­ing him to the op­po­site sex. He is an Ebion­ite Nazirene, a veg­e­tar­ian and keeps the spir­i­tual laws. Sin­gle fa­ther­hood is ok! Richard Gaut­eng I have been a sin­gle par­ent to my daugh­ter Lisa since she was two years old and now she is 10 years old. Being a sin­gle par­ent has brought a lot of self-dis­ci­pline and ma­tu­rity into my life. I’m happy and so grate­ful that God gave me a close friend and an an­gel in my life. To all fa­thers out there, you must al­ways be there for your chil­dren to give them sup­port, teach them and show them love. Ev­ery man can be a fa­ther, but it takes a special man to be a dad. Dan Bruwer Gaut­eng It is ex­tremely hard but very re­ward­ing. I am my seven-year-old son’s hero but spend many sleep­less nights as a 52-year-old Cau­casian unem­ployed male. My son is of mixed race, but when I ap­ply at the SA So­cial Se­cu­rity Agency they deny me. I had a suc­cess­ful in­ter­view at Transnet only to be called back later and told they have a man­date not to em­ploy white males. I’m of­ten sui­ci­dal, but who will take care of my son when I am not there? I be­lieve that the se­nior ca­bal of Faf du Plessis, AB de Vil­liers and Al­bie Morkel has be­come be­holden to In­dian in­ter­ests, given the ex­treme pay they get from the In­dian Premier League (IPL) and re­lated en­dorse­ments. Then, when they are needed to roll over, they do so. In the case of the June 11 match, In­dia needed to progress from Pool B, and South Africa was forced to com­ply. Three run-outs, two thrown wick­ets.

John Penny Gaut­eng

Get rid of ar­ro­gant players such as AB de Vil­liers.

Stacey Naidoo Gaut­eng

The Proteas as a team lack self-be­lief and com­mit­ment. When it comes to knock­out games, they panic. They have the tal­ent and the po­ten­tial. Chok­ing is a psychological prob­lem. Get a good sport psy­chol­o­gist as well as a coach to in­stil be­lief in them. The Proteas give up too eas­ily be­cause of psychological is­sues.

Ther­esse Gaut­eng

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