BUCIE STEPS OUT OF THE LIGHT TO BE A MUM
...AND MENTOR YOUNG GIRLS WHO WANT TO SING
House singer Bucie – her full name is Busisiwe Nqwiliso – has joined the likes of Miranda Ntshangase and other celebrity mothers who have taken a step back from the limelight to prioritise motherhood.
The 31-year-old singer says that she is taking a break to work full-time behind the scenes in the music industry.
“I’ll be mentoring and managing young girls who want to sing through my label and artist management company. This has been something that has always been in my heart. I have always been passionate about young girls and wanting to teach them how powerful they are,” she told City Press this week.
“I’ve been in a male-dominated industry and also managed by men who don’t understand that I can’t wear the same hair forever, and understand that my image needs to change. I just want to be the person who is able to give all that to someone else and not have them hustle.”
Although she will still be continuing with occasional performances, she emphasises that she’d be very selective so that she will “be able to see her children off in the morning and tuck them into bed at night”.
Being a new mum, she is also concerned about her weight. But she refuses to put pressure on herself to get rid of it by “spending all her time killing herself in the gym” rather than spending time with her family.
“I am learning to embrace the new me with the weight gain. Everyone who matters says that I look perfect just as I am,” she laughs.
She recalls an incident where someone on social media took to body shaming her and her friend Zizo Tshwete stood up for her.
“She is real and she is a mother. She knows what it is like to give birth, be a mother and go back to work. This is the new me, everyone must just get used to it. I am embracing all that comes with being a mother again,” she says. When the topic of her husband comes up, she beams. “He is just so gorgeous and yummy. He is beautiful inside and out. He is also very down to earth and he reminds me of my daddy.”
Bucie has been married to this “mystery man” for a year and remains mum about his identity in an effort to respect his privacy.
Recalling the night he proposed to her, she says it was not done in a conventional way.
“It is so weird how he proposed. We were at home just chilling and, out of nowhere, he asked me if I would ever marry him and I said yes I would. And then he asked me if I would marry him and I laughed, but he insisted that he was serious and wanted to marry me ... I said yes! ... There was no ring.”
Soon after she accepted, he went on to pay for her lobola. When that was taken care of, he went down on one knee (this time with a ring) and proposed again. “He is very traditional like that,” she says. Bucie believes that, by taking the back seat, she will assume her normal personality and be seen as a normal person in public.
“I feel like fame robbed me from being a normal human being. People tend to look at me and think that I am unapproachable and intimidating and that makes me uncomfortable.”
Before concluding our conversation, she decides to set the record straight following an outcry in social media about a song that she wrote. She says she wants her fans to know that she is credited on Drake’s song with Black Coffee called Get It Together because she had written the song Superman of which some lines are used in Drake’s song. But she was not asked to do the vocals because she was pregnant and in hospital at the time.
“I appreciate all the love and support from fans, but people need to relax because everything happened the way it was supposed to,” she quips.