Ditch Him Like an Adult

Three lit­tle steps to drama-free in­de­pen­dence

Cosmopolitan (South Africa) - - LOVE LUST -

Step 1 Be very clear

‘Peo­ple try to be nice by mak­ing a break-up sound less def­i­nite – but it should be def­i­nite,’ says Gary Lewandowski, a pro­fes­sor of psy­chol­ogy at Mon­mouth Univer­sity. Say, ‘It’s done.’

Step 2 Take own­er­ship

Your soon-to-be ex is sure to ask why you want to split. Own your de­ci­sion, and fo­cus your re­sponse on you. Ad­mit your role in things – it’s not one-sided – and you’ll both gain use­ful in­sight.

Step 3 Get back to do­ing you

‘ You prob­a­bly loved this per­son, so you’re not go­ing to get off feel­ing to­tally clean,’ says Lewandowski. Beat guilt or re­morse by re­call­ing the le­git rea­son you made this choice.

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