All About Men

The male brain ex­plained

Cosmopolitan (South Africa) - - CONTENTS -

Fi­nally, some mansplain­ing we can get be­hind. Dat­ing strate­gist Matthew Hussey trans­lates the vague things men say

‘I’m not sure we should la­bel this right now.’ ‘I’d like to keep hav­ing sex with other peo­ple.’

He may feed you rea­sons for not want­ing to be of­fi­cial, but he just isn’t ready to give up the sin­gle life. Calmly re­ply, ‘Well, let’s take some space un­til we both know what we want.’

‘Why are you sin­gle?’ ‘Why hasn’t some­one com­mit­ted to you yet?’

He wants to make sure you’re not ‘dam­aged goods’ be­fore pur­su­ing you. Show off your high stan­dards: ‘I’m en­joy­ing my solo sta­tus. Some­one needs to be spe­cial for me to get se­ri­ous with him.’

‘I don’t want to hurt you.’ ‘I’m go­ing to hurt you.’

He isn’t ly­ing. He may not want to up­set you … but he prob­a­bly will. Any guy who says this is 99% sure that he’s go­ing to do you wrong in the near fu­ture. Do with that info what you will…

‘I don’t de­serve you.’ ‘I know you’re more in­vested in this than I am, and I feel guilty.’

Ba­si­cally, he’s telling you that he knows he’s get­ting more than he’s giv­ing. And that’s some­thing you really shouldn’t stand for. Your hon­est come­back? ‘You may be right.’


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