‘Iwas not always as confident as I am today. Sometimes – in fact, most times – I still have to fake it until I feel it.’ The words of our cover star Ayanda Thabethe ring true in my ears as I write this, my very first editor’s letter. Confidence is something we all struggle with. It can cripple you – but it can also help you score the job of your dreams and command the recognition you’ve worked so hard to get.
Recently, someone asked me what being a girl boss means to me. It got me thinking about this word, confidence. I remember when the book Girl Boss by Sophia Amoruso first came out, and the subsequent spawning of the self-made dream and all the connotations that came with it. Killing it with your Instagram game? Girl boss. Slaying your own side hustle? Girl boss. Coining it with brand endorsements? Ka-ching. Girl boss.
Whatever happened to the good old 9-to-5? There’s certainly no shame in that. In fact, there are many more ways to enjoy a fantastic career (and life) than are being fi ltered through the prism of #girlboss. I challenge you to set aside the perceived standards of being a girl boss and make up some of your own. You don’t have to be a boss. You can simply be what you are and what you enjoy. Sometimes that’s leaning in – to get your business idea off the ground or to ask for a raise. Other times, it’s leaning against the fridge door wondering how much ice cream is left. For me, it means being the boss of myself – being authentic and being unapologetic about it.
I read something that resonated with this. A social-studies professor wrote that the secret to true confidence is to ‘get out of this feeling that you have to be perfect’. If we’re constantly fi xated on curating an idea of perfection, we’ll never get around to doing what we actually want to do.
Real self-confidence comes from knowing yourself. It’s a realisation that sings to the tune of our cover star’s words: ‘As you come into your own awareness and live in that light even just for a moment, you realise that what’s always held you back is yourself, and that the things you’re most afraid of are just experiences waiting for you to face and conquer them in your own imperfect way.’
Think big, dream always, live in today.
Holly Meadows Editor email@example.com