When a Hot Sitch Goes Cold

‘I met James at a bar; he was the hottest guy I’d ever seen. We started talk­ing, and even­tu­ally he in­vited me over to his place. I was like, “This guy’s hot, let’s do this!” Turns out, he did noth­ing vaguely in­ter­est­ing for me – he didn’t even take my shi

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TAKE CHARGE

Grab his hand and put it on a no-fail hot spot, such as your breast, and say, ‘I like to be touched right here.’ Or show him how it’s done with your own hands. This shifts his fo­cus eas­ily and ef­fec­tively with­out killing the sexy vibe.

HALT T HE A CTION

If you want to re­move your­self from a self­ish ex­pe­ri­ence – and do so with min­i­mal drama – speak your piece clearly, says Stubbs: ‘I was feel­ing this ear­lier, but now I’m not so into it. I had fun but I need to go.’

GIVE F EEDBACK

Con­struc­tive crit­i­cism postromp can up the odds that next time (if you want one) will be bet­ter. ‘Say, “I liked when you were stroking me here,”’ sug­gests Queen. Then give a tip: ‘But I’m not crazy about hav­ing my ass grabbed.’

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