YOUR PART­NER'S NEEDS

Cosmopolitan (South Africa) - - LOVE -

Re­spect for Their Home

Be­fore you start re­ar­rang­ing ev­ery­thing, here’s a re­al­ity check: this is your part­ner’s space, not yours. It’s okay to speak up and say you’re grossed out by the dirty dishes in the sink, says Kerner, but do so in a con­struc­tive way (for ex­am­ple, ‘Hav­ing a clean place is re­ally im­por­tant to me’). Tidy up af­ter your­self too.

Moral Sup­port

When bae has had a crappy day at work or is go­ing through drama in their per­sonal life, be there for them, says Na­gler. Rather than add to the neg­a­tive vibe with com­plaints of your own, o…er a pos­i­tive point in­stead.

Alone Time, the Se­quel

You may not like it, but your boo-thang needs some hours spent with­out you too. Whether they use that time to see friends or fam­ily, hit the gym, nap or just have a poo is ir­rel­e­vant – it’s not a sign they’re less into you. Be­sides, tak­ing some­one away from their favourite peo­ple or hob­bies breeds re­sent­ment that can kill a great con­nec­tion. Choose your bat­tles care­fully – and re­mem­ber that a lit­tle time apart makes you bet­ter to­gether. ■

‘On the count of three, let’s at­tempt to dis­con­nect’

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