TRUE STORY:

20 YEAR OLD SHARES ABOUT HER BAD EX­PE­RI­ENCE WITH HER MOTHER.

Empowered Youth Magazine - - CONTENTS: - Anony­mous.

“My mother used to mis­treat me. Ev­ery­thing she did to me was dis­sim­i­lar from that she did to my sis­ter. I am a 20 year old, liv­ing with my mother and si­b­lings. I am grate­ful to Em­pow­ered Youth Mag­a­zine for giv­ing me an op­por­tu­nity to tell my story. In 2016, I failed my ma­tric. I was not her favourite and for that rea­son, things be­came worse and I had to live with it.

I knew that I had dis­ap­pointed her as a mother. I urged my­self to go back to school so that I could at least ob­tain my ma­tric. It is quite un­be­liev­able that she only sent me R300 for rent. I was for­tu­nate that there was a feed­ing scheme at school. There were days where no food was given to us, and I just had to pray and let life be. On the ma­tric re­sults day, the 5th Jan­uary this year (2018), great news came to my life that I passed my ma­tric. I was con­vinced that she would be happy for me and stop treat­ing me like I was not her daugh­ter. I thought she was go­ing to send me to school to fur­ther my stud­ies like she did with my sis­ter, but that was not what she had in mind. I re­fused to let that block my de­sire to go to ter­tiary. I then ap­plied for schol­ar­ships and I for­tu­nately got one. When it was time for me to leave, she told me that she had no money for me to leave.

I was re­ally hurt and felt tor­tured. I cried so hard and she never cared. I ended up ac­cept­ing my sit­u­a­tion and made peace with the fact that. Things be­came worse as she stopped buy­ing food and when I asked, she would tell me that I was over age and must find my­self a boyfriend who would take care of me. Take-ways were all she bought for her­self.

Last month (Fe­bru­ary), be­fore leav­ing for work, she de­cided to take her blan­kets that I was us­ing and locked the house. I had to sit on the street with cold. I had al­ways tried to talk to her about how I felt, but she never cared. I had a thought of see­ing a So­cial Worker, but be­cause I did not want to cause trou­ble, I kept it to my­self un­til I opened up to one of the peo­ple I al­ways go to for as­sis­tance. Later that day, she came to me and apol­o­gised for ev­ery­thing she has done to me. I had no words to ques­tion her, but to just ac­cept the apol­ogy as it felt warm and was what I al­ways be­lieved would con­trib­ute to­wards my peace with her. I took my men­tor’s ad­vice and to­day I am liv­ing a peace­ful life with my mother. I feel the love that ev­ery young girl would love from a mother. I shared this story not be­cause I wanted to ex­pose her, but be­cause I want my peers and par­ents to read about how par­ents pro­hibit their chil­dren’s suc­cess with­out re­al­is­ing”.

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