20 YEAR OLD SHARES ABOUT HER BAD EXPERIENCE WITH HER MOTHER.
“My mother used to mistreat me. Everything she did to me was dissimilar from that she did to my sister. I am a 20 year old, living with my mother and siblings. I am grateful to Empowered Youth Magazine for giving me an opportunity to tell my story. In 2016, I failed my matric. I was not her favourite and for that reason, things became worse and I had to live with it.
I knew that I had disappointed her as a mother. I urged myself to go back to school so that I could at least obtain my matric. It is quite unbelievable that she only sent me R300 for rent. I was fortunate that there was a feeding scheme at school. There were days where no food was given to us, and I just had to pray and let life be. On the matric results day, the 5th January this year (2018), great news came to my life that I passed my matric. I was convinced that she would be happy for me and stop treating me like I was not her daughter. I thought she was going to send me to school to further my studies like she did with my sister, but that was not what she had in mind. I refused to let that block my desire to go to tertiary. I then applied for scholarships and I fortunately got one. When it was time for me to leave, she told me that she had no money for me to leave.
I was really hurt and felt tortured. I cried so hard and she never cared. I ended up accepting my situation and made peace with the fact that. Things became worse as she stopped buying food and when I asked, she would tell me that I was over age and must find myself a boyfriend who would take care of me. Take-ways were all she bought for herself.
Last month (February), before leaving for work, she decided to take her blankets that I was using and locked the house. I had to sit on the street with cold. I had always tried to talk to her about how I felt, but she never cared. I had a thought of seeing a Social Worker, but because I did not want to cause trouble, I kept it to myself until I opened up to one of the people I always go to for assistance. Later that day, she came to me and apologised for everything she has done to me. I had no words to question her, but to just accept the apology as it felt warm and was what I always believed would contribute towards my peace with her. I took my mentor’s advice and today I am living a peaceful life with my mother. I feel the love that every young girl would love from a mother. I shared this story not because I wanted to expose her, but because I want my peers and parents to read about how parents prohibit their children’s success without realising”.