TALK TO LINKY:
“HE NEVER HAS TIME FOR FAMILY, BUT FRIENDS”
I go by the name of Zukiswa from Durban. I stay with my younger sister, my daughter and my husband. My husband spend much of his time out with his friends drinking and always come back home late. Sometimes he’d knock off at work on a Friday and never come back for the whole weekend ‘til Monday after work. There would be a lot tension in the house when he comes back. He doesn’t have time to bond with his daughter or attend any of her major events at school. It breaks her heart. I always tell her that her dad loves her regardless of his actions and she doesn’t seem to believe me. I am also tired of his behaviour but he becomes aggressive when I confront him about it. I am so worried.
Most families go through what you are going through. You’ll find one parent responsible for everyone and everything in the house and it’s mostly mothers who are responsible. Just keep doing what is right for you and your daughter. Focus on supporting her the best way you can so she accomplish her dreams .It’s been said ‘’There is time to keep quiet and there is time to speak’’. I believe you’ve said everything you wanted to say to him during your arguments when he returns home late .It’s now time to move your energy to where it would be useful ,which is on your daughter .Things change, so people.