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Dear Linky

I am a mother of a one month baby girl .I’m cur­rently do­ing my sec­ond year Masters .I am so stressed I to an ex­tent that I even strug­gle writ­ing my work most of the time be­cause I’m not at peace. I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2010.Ev­ery­thing was go­ing well un­til I gave birth to my daugh­ter, he started be­ing cold and dis­tant .He was how­ever very ex­cited when I told him that I was preg­nant. He sent his un­cles last year Fe­bru­ary 2017 to pay for dam­ages and told my fam­ily he would come back for lobola ne­go­ti­a­tions. For the past two months when I call him he tells me he needs his space. I can feel it inside that it’s over for us. I am ready for any­thing .My re­la­tion­ship sta­tus is con­fus­ing.

Dear Zuk­iswa

Don’t be hard on your­self. It could be a mis­un­der­stand­ing from your side. You are draw­ing con­clu­sions very fast and I don’t blame you. Most women would do the same. It may be true that he needs his space. He was there through­out your preg­nancy. He is prob­a­bly ner­vous about be­ing a father. You would not un­der­stand be­cause you be­came a par­ent for nine months alone be­fore him, you went through all the process of com­ing to real­ity that you are a mother, yet he is only di­gest­ing the mat­ter now. Give him the space. Don’t eas­ily lose hope on peo­ple you love.

Linky Mocheudi gives her best ad­vice to a cry­ing mother about her baby daddy.

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