SOULFUL TALK:

Empowered Youth Magazine - - CONTENTS - By Vu­tomi T.

So many of us are too con­sumed about what is go­ing on around us that we haven’t fig­ure out our own lives. Of­ten times peo­ple are too scared to ex­press them­selves, be them­selves or even do things that will make them truly happy with the fear of be­ing judged. We limit our po­ten­tial and joy with the hope to avoid mak­ing the next per­son un­com­fort­able. Yet when the end days come you only have your­self to re­flect with. When such a time comes, can you truly say that you have lived your best life? Love your­self enough to wake up ev­ery morn­ing and com­mit to you. No point in im­press­ing the streets when your home is still with­out di­rec­tion. No point in buy­ing a car that you don’t need just to im­press the neigh­bours, they won’t be the ones to cover the cost come mon­thend. No point in rent­ing a fancy home that you can­not af­ford, just to give into the pres­sure/idea of how peers of your own age are liv­ing. Some­times you fake it for so long, that you ac­tu­ally never make it. Live within your means, live your best life and leave a mark. You can­not take care of other peo­ple and their emo­tions, if you can­not take care of your­self. Be­ing a late Rev­erends’ child I could write a book about liv­ing life a cer­tain way just to earn the ap­proval of church mem­bers. Not be­cause I was are forced to, but just so my fa­ther’s mem­ory could for­ever live. I was con­sumed by the idea of how a rev­erends’ child should be­have. Since his pass­ing, peo­ple would of­ten say; “He wouldn’t want to see you do this, he would want you to do that…” Re­ally? How true is that? Did he take the time to seat down with you and ex­plain how he would like to raise his kids? Did he share his dreams and hopes he had for us? How do you know that he was never go­ing to change his mind? How do you then ex­pect me to live a dead man’s dream while I am still alive? Are my dreams sud­denly not valid be­cause he died? Oooh! how I cry for or­phans be­ing chan­nelled to live their lives un­der the shadow of their late par­ents. Live your best life. Teach your­self the habit of wak­ing up ev­ery morn­ing, look in the mir­ror and tell your­self sweet noth­ings. Dress up and take your­self out on a date to the restau­rant that you have al­ways wanted to go to. Be self­ish with your time and re­sources. If some­one in­vites you to an event that you can­not af­ford, it is okay to po­litely turn down the of­fer. Not ev­ery­one can af­ford to go on va­ca­tions that re­quire a pass­port, Kruger na­tional park is still a re­lax­ing des­ti­na­tion. Eat your por­ridge at home and then go to the restau­rant to have your­self your fa­vorite desert. Live within your means and be happy. Go on un­planned trips and turn off your phone. Write a bucket list and do the things that make you happy. Young par­ent: oc­ca­sion­ally drop the kids off at their grannies house and go on a cou­ple’s night out or week­end away. Al­low your part­ner to go on va­ca­tions away with their friends just to keep their unique in­di­vid­ual per­son­al­ity alive. Live your best life, if there is some­thing you have al­ways wanted to ex­pe­ri­ence, there is no bet­ter time than now. Peo­ple are go­ing to talk whether you do good or bad. So do your­self some jus­tice and give them some­thing that gives you in­ner joy to talk about. Your kids are go­ing to grow up and leave you be­hind to live their own lives, so raise them in a re­spon­si­ble man­ner with­out com­pro­mis­ing on your own in­di­vid­ual hap­pi­ness. Ev­ery fan­tasy you ever had is worth liv­ing, live your best life to­day.

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