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HOW TO HELP A FRIEND IN NEED
As most therapists or life coaches will confirm, sometimes help doesn’t always, well, help – but empathy will: When they’re stressed out: Ask them to talk more about what’s going on, and validate their feelings. Suggest a walk to let off some nervous energy or a movie for distraction, but make it clear that you will follow their lead. When they’re seriously ill: We’ve probably all been a little guilty of this at some point: we don’t know what to say, so we say nothing. What your friend needs is an opening to talk, like: ‘You must be so scared.’ Offer practical support, like doing the shopping.
Most importantly, continue to check in on them. Take note of their medical appointments and check in to see how these consultations went. When they’ve lost their job: Contact them straight away, and empathise. Ask questions, like ‘What do you think you’ll do now?’ Avoid easy reassurances; they mean nothing, especially now. When they’ve lost someone
close to them: This is the other circumstance we tend to avoid. Be brave: contact them immediately to say you’re sorry to hear the news. If you knew the person, tell your friend how much you liked him or her. If you didn’t, ask about them. Whenever appropriate, reminisce, and celebrate the happy memories. Make a note of the anniversary of the person’s death and birthday, and contact your friend leading up to these days.