Feeling connected is intrinsically rewarding to the brain.
That’s because our brains evolved to greatly value social attachment. Because human maturation takes so long compared to other species, social pain became a way to encourage us to stay socially attached to promote survival. If separation from a caregiver is a threat to survival, feeling hurt by separation may be an adaptation to prevent that.
No one is suggesting that managers should act or see themselves in a caregiving or paternalistic fashion; these insights help managers work with people’s strengths and tendencies rather than against them. Isolating an employee with authoritative demands and intimidation triggers a sense of isolation, threat and fear. Then the brain slams the brakes on the prefrontal cortex and makes it harder for people to think