Man forced to live in his car to escape girlfriend
A 59-year-old man who had moved from the United States to Britain in order to be with a woman he had met playing poker online, recently decided to live in his car just to get away from his controlling and sometimes violent girlfriend.
Robin Cozens met his girlfriend while playing poker on the Internet. They started chatting online and after a few months, their friendship turned into a romance. Everything was going great, but alarm bells did go off on one occasion when the woman threatened to send intimate pictures of him to his boss in the US if he didn’t travel to Hull in the UK to see her.
It was an unusual way of convincing him to come to her, but Cozens put it down to her desire to be with him. He brushed it off, but little did he know that her unusual behaviour on that occasion was just a taste of things to come.
As their online romance became more serious, the 59-year-old man decided to leave his engineering job in the US and move to Hull to be with the woman he had fallen in love with. At first, things were great. He says there were “such good times together”, but then things started going downhill.
“She would regularly check my phone and ask me where I was and who I was talking to all the time. She even put the location on my phone so she could see where I was,” Cozens recently told Hull Daily Mail.
“She didn’t believe me when I said I was doing the grocery shopping and she would check my bills and open my bank statements as she would accuse me of sending money to another woman in America.”
At one point, the woman started being violent towards him, hitting and biting him on more than one occasion. Cozens claims that he left her house multiple times, but that she would always call him to apologise, saying that she would get help and never do it again. Then she would tell him how much she and her grandchildren miss him. He would give in and move back. But things just kept getting worse.
The controlling woman started checking up on him at the workplace just to see if he was there. She would also sometimes pretend to go out, but in fact hide inside the house to see if he would do something she didn’t like.
“If I had been on long 12-hour shifts and had a day off she would come in the next morning and tell me she was going to work,” the 59-year-old said.
“I would get up as usual and watch television or do other normal things. She would just appear out of the other bedroom and make up some excuse about not feeling well. There was another time when she had hidden in the under stairs cupboard and claimed she had fallen asleep there.”
Eventually, it all got too much for Cozens. He recently left the girlfriend for good. He is currently living out of his car, until he can find a place to stay. He says he suffers from depression, but wanted to come forward about his ordeal to inspire other men suffering from the same kind of abuse.
“I don’t want women like her to think they can treat people like this and get away with it,” Cozens said.
“There is support out there if you need it. And, don’t go back. They say they will change, but they never will.”
Cozens is living in his car to escape his controlling ex-girlfriend.