Man for­ced to li­ve in his car to es­ca­pe gi­r­lf­riend

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A 59-y­e­ar-old man who had mo­ved from the U­ni­ted S­ta­tes to B­ri­tain in or­der to be with a wo­man he had met playing po­ker on­li­ne, re­cent­ly de­ci­ded to li­ve in his car just to get a­way from his con­trol­ling and so­meti­mes vi­o­lent gi­r­lf­riend.

Ro­bin Co­zens met his gi­r­lf­riend whi­le playing po­ker on the In­ter­net. T­hey star­ted chat­ting on­li­ne and af­ter a few mont­hs, their friends­hip tur­ned in­to a ro­man­ce. E­ver­y­thing was going gre­at, but alarm bells did go off on one oc­ca­si­on w­hen the wo­man thre­a­tened to send in­ti­ma­te pic­tu­res of him to his boss in the US if he didn’t tra­vel to Hull in the UK to see her.

It was an u­nu­su­al way of con­vin­cing him to co­me to her, but Co­zens put it do­wn to her de­si­re to be with him. He brus­hed it off, but litt­le did he know that her u­nu­su­al be­ha­vi­our on that oc­ca­si­on was just a tas­te of t­hings to co­me.

As their on­li­ne ro­man­ce be­ca­me mo­re se­ri­ous, the 59-y­e­ar-old man de­ci­ded to le­a­ve his en­gi­neer­ing job in the US and mo­ve to Hull to be with the wo­man he had fal­len in lo­ve with. At first, t­hings we­re gre­at. He says the­re we­re “such good ti­mes to­get­her”, but then t­hings star­ted going do­wn­hill.

“She would re­gu­lar­ly check my pho­ne and ask me w­he­re I was and who I was tal­king to all the ti­me. She e­ven put the lo­ca­ti­on on my pho­ne so she could see w­he­re I was,” Co­zens re­cent­ly told Hull Dai­ly Mail.

“She didn’t be­lie­ve me w­hen I said I was doing the gro­ce­ry shop­ping and she would check my bills and o­pen my bank sta­te­ments as she would accu­se me of sen­ding mo­ney to a­not­her wo­man in A­me­ri­ca.”

At one point, the wo­man star­ted being vi­o­lent to­wards him, hit­ting and bi­ting him on mo­re than one oc­ca­si­on. Co­zens claims that he left her hou­se mul­ti­ple ti­mes, but that she would al­ways call him to a­po­lo­gi­se, saying that she would get help and ne­ver do it a­gain. Then she would tell him how much she and her gran­d­child­ren miss him. He would gi­ve in and mo­ve back. But t­hings just kept get­ting wor­se.

The con­trol­ling wo­man star­ted checking up on him at the work­pla­ce just to see if he was the­re. She would al­so so­meti­mes pre­tend to go out, but in fact hi­de in­si­de the hou­se to see if he would do so­mething she didn’t li­ke.

“If I had been on long 12-hour shifts and had a day off she would co­me in the next mor­ning and tell me she was going to work,” the 59-y­e­ar-old said.

“I would get up as u­su­al and wa­tch te­le­vi­si­on or do ot­her nor­mal t­hings. She would just ap­pear out of the ot­her be­droom and ma­ke up so­me ex­cu­se a­bout not fee­ling well. The­re was a­not­her ti­me w­hen she had hid­den in the un­der stairs cup­bo­ard and clai­med she had fal­len a­sleep the­re.”

E­ven­tu­al­ly, it all got too much for Co­zens. He re­cent­ly left the gi­r­lf­riend for good. He is cur­rent­ly li­ving out of his car, until he can find a pla­ce to stay. He says he suf­fers from de­pres­si­on, but wan­ted to co­me for­ward a­bout his or­de­al to in­spi­re ot­her men suf­fe­ring from the sa­me kind of a­bu­se.

“I don’t want wo­men li­ke her to think t­hey can tre­at pe­op­le li­ke this and get a­way with it,” Co­zens said.

“The­re is sup­port out the­re if you need it. And, don’t go back. T­hey say t­hey will chan­ge, but t­hey ne­ver will.”

MEN Me­dia P­ho­to: Hull Dai­ly Mail /

Co­zens is li­ving in his car to es­ca­pe his con­trol­ling ex-gi­r­lf­riend.

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