“So, you’ve told us how often all these people have sex,” I hear you protest. “But how am I supposed to know if I’m having enough?”
You’re right – and that’s intentional. There’s a reason why these stories are different, and that’s because there’s enormous variation in the way that we experience sex.
That doesn’t just go for how often we do it, but what we do and how we feel about it. Swinging singles and couples who have sex three times a week exist, sure, but they’re not nearly as common as you think.
See, here’s the thing: there’s no set formula for a happy sex life. Having lots of sex doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is perfect, just like a dry spell doesn’t mean that you’ve lost your mojo. “There are so many ways to measure how well a relationship is working,” explains Dr Boynton, “from how well you get on and how attractive you find each other, to how you communicate and what things you do to enjoy your time together.”
And the best news of all is that we have the power to change the stories we hear about sex, and that means more #realtalk. Who’s in?