“So, you’ve told us how of­ten all th­ese peo­ple have sex,” I hear you protest. “But how am I sup­posed to know if I’m hav­ing enough?”

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You’re right – and that’s in­ten­tional. There’s a rea­son why th­ese sto­ries are dif­fer­ent, and that’s be­cause there’s enor­mous vari­a­tion in the way that we ex­pe­ri­ence sex.

That doesn’t just go for how of­ten we do it, but what we do and how we feel about it. Swing­ing sin­gles and cou­ples who have sex three times a week ex­ist, sure, but they’re not nearly as com­mon as you think.

See, here’s the thing: there’s no set for­mula for a happy sex life. Hav­ing lots of sex doesn’t nec­es­sar­ily mean your re­la­tion­ship is per­fect, just like a dry spell doesn’t mean that you’ve lost your mojo. “There are so many ways to mea­sure how well a re­la­tion­ship is work­ing,” ex­plains Dr Boyn­ton, “from how well you get on and how at­trac­tive you find each other, to how you com­mu­ni­cate and what things you do to en­joy your time to­gether.”

And the best news of all is that we have the power to change the sto­ries we hear about sex, and that means more #re­altalk. Who’s in?

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