Love & coach When guys talk love. And, “Help! I’m at­tracted to my best friend’s boyfriend. What should I do?”

Life coach Kirsten Long ad­vises on love, work and more.

Glamour (South Africa) - - Front Page -

Q“I’m at­tracted to my best friend’s boyfriend. I love my best friend and would never want to hurt her, but I re­ally like her boyfriend. What should I do?”

Imag­ine you were dat­ing the man of your dreams and that your best friend stole him. How would you feel? For a woman, this would be the ul­ti­mate be­trayal, and you must know that the first con­se­quence of pur­su­ing your BFF’S boyfriend is that you will lose her. For­ever.

There is an­other, more in­sid­i­ous con­se­quence. Let’s say you gave in to your at­trac­tion. You flirted with her boyfriend and you won. Now he’s your boyfriend, but at the back of your mind lies the fact that he cheated on his girl­friend – will he cheat on you one day? The foun­da­tion of your re­la­tion­ship is built on un­trust­wor­thi­ness.

You al­ways have a choice. If you de­cide not to pur­sue the at­trac­tion, you must stick to this and get that thought clear in your head. If you go for it, do it with full knowl­edge of the con­se­quences that will come.

Choose in aware­ness and think about what you re­ally want from your re­la­tion­ships – and your life.

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