Love & coach When guys talk love. And, “Help! I’m attracted to my best friend’s boyfriend. What should I do?”
Life coach Kirsten Long advises on love, work and more.
Q“I’m attracted to my best friend’s boyfriend. I love my best friend and would never want to hurt her, but I really like her boyfriend. What should I do?”
Imagine you were dating the man of your dreams and that your best friend stole him. How would you feel? For a woman, this would be the ultimate betrayal, and you must know that the first consequence of pursuing your BFF’S boyfriend is that you will lose her. Forever.
There is another, more insidious consequence. Let’s say you gave in to your attraction. You flirted with her boyfriend and you won. Now he’s your boyfriend, but at the back of your mind lies the fact that he cheated on his girlfriend – will he cheat on you one day? The foundation of your relationship is built on untrustworthiness.
You always have a choice. If you decide not to pursue the attraction, you must stick to this and get that thought clear in your head. If you go for it, do it with full knowledge of the consequences that will come.
Choose in awareness and think about what you really want from your relationships – and your life.