We cry. Let’s just own it!

Cry­ing is an ut­terly hu­man, to­tally nor­mal re­sponse to big-deal emo­tions. How about we stop feel­ing em­bar­rassed for do­ing it?

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Of­ten, when we talk about those we love, like our chil­dren, part­ners and par­ents, we have to blink back tears. Be­cause, well: love over­load. In­deed, that’s all cry­ing is, re­veals Dr Emily Nagoski, who spe­cialises in health be­hav­iour and hu­man sex­u­al­ity. “It’s the re­lease of in­tense emo­tion.” Hap­pi­ness, sor­row, anx­i­ety, re­lief, plea­sure, pain: “It doesn’t mat­ter what you feel,” she says. “Tears are about how much you feel.”

Tears equal un­re­strained, over­flow­ing emo­tion – and emo­tion is a good thing. So in a per­fect world, we’d des­tig­ma­tise cry­ing and know that it’s nat­u­ral and some­times even ben­e­fi­cial for all hu­man be­ings – not just for us women. Af­ter all, re­search shows that peo­ple who cry of­ten have a stronger ca­pac­ity for close and in­ti­mate re­la­tion­ships.

But, cul­ture doesn’t change overnight, and in this world, too many peo­ple still see cry­ing as a sign of be­ing out of con­trol. So we asked ex­perts to help you un­der­stand why tears most of­ten hap­pen and how to han­dle (and ac­cept) them.

Uzo Aduba at the Emmy Awards in 2015. Natalie Port­man at the Os­cars in 2011. Cait­lyn Jen­ner at the 2015 ESPY Awards. Oc­tavia Spencer at the 2012 Os­cars. Adele at the Brit Awards this year. Jen­nifer Hud­son at the 2007 Os­cars.

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