We cry. Let’s just own it!
Crying is an utterly human, totally normal response to big-deal emotions. How about we stop feeling embarrassed for doing it?
Often, when we talk about those we love, like our children, partners and parents, we have to blink back tears. Because, well: love overload. Indeed, that’s all crying is, reveals Dr Emily Nagoski, who specialises in health behaviour and human sexuality. “It’s the release of intense emotion.” Happiness, sorrow, anxiety, relief, pleasure, pain: “It doesn’t matter what you feel,” she says. “Tears are about how much you feel.”
Tears equal unrestrained, overflowing emotion – and emotion is a good thing. So in a perfect world, we’d destigmatise crying and know that it’s natural and sometimes even beneficial for all human beings – not just for us women. After all, research shows that people who cry often have a stronger capacity for close and intimate relationships.
But, culture doesn’t change overnight, and in this world, too many people still see crying as a sign of being out of control. So we asked experts to help you understand why tears most often happen and how to handle (and accept) them.