“No great love story has ever begun without a spark of thirst.”
Every successful relationship has at least a molecule of thirst – not lust or affection, but something even stronger. That which screams: “I had such a nice time at dinner! Would you like to come up to my apartment? Like, now?” Lots of fun and exciting things can happen thirst-free. You can go on a rollercoaster, cook a fivecourse meal, you can even have OK sex. But you can’t have great sex.
I have benefited hugely from thirst. I met my fiancée in the thirstiest way possible: a direct message on Twitter. It wasn’t inappropriate (there absolutely shouldn’t be catcalling, harassment or figured out a time we could see each other again ( Fast and Thirstiest, starring Vin Diesel!). Now we’re planning a wedding.
Not every story has such a happy ending. Thirst can go wrong. Unchecked it’s smothering. Unreciprocated it’s stalking. But thirst, in its purest form, isn’t about entitlement or desperation. It’s about knowing what you want. So try it. Go out and be like the people you don’t want to date.
We should all be willing to put our feelings on the line, then maturely handle the consequences. You could get rejected. Or it might be something great.