“No great love story has ever be­gun without a spark of thirst.”

Glamour (South Africa) - - All About You -

Ev­ery suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ship has at least a mol­e­cule of thirst – not lust or af­fec­tion, but some­thing even stronger. That which screams: “I had such a nice time at dinner! Would you like to come up to my apart­ment? Like, now?” Lots of fun and ex­cit­ing things can hap­pen thirst-free. You can go on a roller­coaster, cook a five­course meal, you can even have OK sex. But you can’t have great sex.

I have ben­e­fited hugely from thirst. I met my fi­ancée in the thirsti­est way pos­si­ble: a di­rect mes­sage on Twit­ter. It wasn’t in­ap­pro­pri­ate (there ab­so­lutely shouldn’t be cat­call­ing, ha­rass­ment or fig­ured out a time we could see each other again ( Fast and Thirsti­est, star­ring Vin Diesel!). Now we’re plan­ning a wed­ding.

Not ev­ery story has such a happy end­ing. Thirst can go wrong. Unchecked it’s smoth­er­ing. Un­re­cip­ro­cated it’s stalk­ing. But thirst, in its purest form, isn’t about en­ti­tle­ment or des­per­a­tion. It’s about know­ing what you want. So try it. Go out and be like the peo­ple you don’t want to date.

We should all be will­ing to put our feel­ings on the line, then ma­turely han­dle the con­se­quences. You could get re­jected. Or it might be some­thing great.

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