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Kirsten Long advises on love, work and more.
Q “Is it OK to date my friend’s ex? They broke up six months ago.”
There is no rule book that tells us how long we must wait before we date a friend’s ex, and six months seems to be a reasonable amount of time, but it all depends on how your friend has handled the fall-out of the breakup.
If she’s still hurting and hankering after her ex, she’s unlikely to take favourably to the news, which may cause her even more hurt.
There’s also an issue around social gatherings. How will things pan out if you and your new beau go out in a group and your friend is there? Think about how you’ll handle situations like this.
My advice: carefully weigh up the importance of these two relationships. Is a romance with her ex worth the risk of creating a rift in your friendship?
But if your motives for dating him are sincere, discuss your feelings with her, then listen carefully to what she has to say.
This could be a challenging journey, but understanding the consequences and handling the situation sensitively will determine the outcome of both relationships.