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Kirsten Long ad­vises on love, work and more.

Glamour (South Africa) - - All About You -

Q “Is it OK to date my friend’s ex? They broke up six months ago.”

There is no rule book that tells us how long we must wait be­fore we date a friend’s ex, and six months seems to be a rea­son­able amount of time, but it all de­pends on how your friend has han­dled the fall-out of the breakup.

If she’s still hurt­ing and han­ker­ing af­ter her ex, she’s un­likely to take favourably to the news, which may cause her even more hurt.

There’s also an is­sue around so­cial gather­ings. How will things pan out if you and your new beau go out in a group and your friend is there? Think about how you’ll han­dle sit­u­a­tions like this.

My ad­vice: care­fully weigh up the im­por­tance of these two re­la­tion­ships. Is a ro­mance with her ex worth the risk of cre­at­ing a rift in your friend­ship?

But if your mo­tives for dat­ing him are sin­cere, dis­cuss your feel­ings with her, then lis­ten care­fully to what she has to say.

This could be a chal­leng­ing jour­ney, but un­der­stand­ing the con­se­quences and han­dling the sit­u­a­tion sen­si­tively will de­ter­mine the out­come of both re­la­tion­ships.

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