“I had chil­dren be­cause it seemed like the right thing to do at the time”

Glamour (South Africa) - - Life -

Jenny, 39, mar­ried with two chil­dren “I fell preg­nant at 32, soon af­ter I got mar­ried. Of my univer­sity gang, four of us mar­ried and had ba­bies within the same 18 months – it was a domino ef­fect. It’s a ta­boo thing to say, but I’m not sure I was ready for moth­er­hood then. It was the con­ven­tional thing to do and I was swept along with it. All of my friends seemed to take to it bril­liantly, whereas I found it bor­ing. I’m ashamed to ad­mit that I was re­lieved to go back to my job in ad­ver­tis­ing. Look­ing back, I prob­a­bly had post­na­tal de­pres­sion. I’ve since had an­other child and feel I’ve learned how to be a good mother. I’m wist­ful for my life be­fore chil­dren, though; the spon­ta­neous nights out, the ex­otic travel, the sum­mers at fes­ti­vals. I love my kids, of course, but I think it’s disin­gen­u­ous to pre­tend that moth­er­hood is this end­lessly ful­fill­ing, life-en­hanc­ing jour­ney.”

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