The burning one
Alright, I know that I’m going to sound a bit like your mom here (OK, a mom who’s a bit TMI), but if there’s one sexual preparation you really should not scrimp on, it’s washing your hands.
In fact, you simply cannot wash your hands enough before you have sex if you’ve handled spices, chilli or, in my case, Deep Heat. Yes, the back-pain cream with actual flames on the packaging is not clitorally compatible. You feel hotter, tinglier, too hot, too tingly, then arrrggghh, weeping. If bits-burn happens to you, use cold water liberally – I sat on a wet flannel for about 30 minutes (no doubt an image that really consolidated my partner’s desire). And, for the love of sexual function, do get medical advice if you’re worried – or melting.