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Kirsten Long advises on love, work and more.
Q“I’ve dated my boyfriend for two years, but every time I bring up marriage he shuts me down. How can I approach this?”
Very few women are happy to remain in a long-term relationship that goes nowhere. So this is a conversation that has to happen.
First spend time honestly reflecting on your deal-breakers and what you want, as you need to be comfortable knowing that this conversation could put your relationship at risk.
There may be opportunities that naturally open up a conversation. If a friend gets engaged, for example, you could talk about how long she and her partner have been together to learn his views on marriage. But keep things theoretical, not pointed. A comment like, “What I think is important in a future husband is…” lessens the pressure and suggests the possibility that you could marry someone else.
If, however, you want a direct conversation, simply state what you want and ask his opinion. You could say, “I would like to get married, not today, but one day. How do you feel about this?”