Love & body How to get an MA in love. And, amaz­ing work­out fixes

That’s a de­gree in ‘Mi­cro Af­fec­tion’ – be­cause the lit­tle things do mat­ter.

Glamour (South Africa) - - News -

1Get in on each other’s hob­bies “I love read­ing, but my hus­band has dys­lexia, so he’ll of­ten get the same book as me on tape, and lis­ten along all night. Or I’ll read a chap­ter out loud be­fore fall­ing asleep. It’s just a tiny ges­ture, but it says a lot about the way we ‘do’ love – which is to be to­gether as much as pos­si­ble. We work to­gether as well, so we need to build in time do­ing small qual­ity things to­gether, or we’d just end up talk­ing shop all the time.” – Har­riet, 30

2 Set up a safe word “We were 14 and had no real con­cept of for­ever, but we swore that no mat­ter what, if one of us said the word ‘pan­cakes’ in a con­text out­side of brunch, it meant we needed sup­port. It was our emo­tional safe word and I reckon all cou­ples should have one – a pass­word that gives us di­rect ac­cess to sen­ti­men­tal sup­port and love. My ex and I are on lovely terms, and I gen­uinely think if I mes­saged him that word now, he’d call and check I was OK.” – Kate, 28

3 Be your own rom-com “My favourite thing we do is greet each other dra­mat­i­cally in pub­lic. If one of us meets the other at the air­port or bus stop, we have to run slow-mo­tion to­wards each other like in a movie. We do long-distance most of the time and that one silly rit­ual makes our re­unions more ex­cit­ing. It’s the corni­est thing, but it’s our approach to our whole re­la­tion­ship: be dra­matic and do things that make us laugh.” – Matilda, 25

4 Clothes off, phones off “We have one un­break­able rule at home: when we’re in bed, we’re not allowed to wear our py­ja­mas or use tech­nol­ogy. It’s a no-clothes, no-phones zone and it in­creases our chances of hav­ing sex by 100%.” – Ed­wina, 32

5 Hit the re­set but­ton “When­ever my ex-boyfriend and I used to fight, one of us would press the other per­son’s belly but­ton and make a ‘boop’ noise, like it was our re­set but­ton. It meant we had to start our con­ver­sa­tion again and try to make it a nicer one. It was sur­pris­ingly ef­fec­tive – and prob­a­bly be­cause it was quite silly – but be­ing a bit child­ish with each other worked for us. It re­minded us not to take our­selves se­ri­ously.” – Clau­dia, 34

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