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Q“My parents got divorced years ago and now my mom wants to discuss her love life with me. How should I handle this?”
As we get older, our relationships with our mothers change and it’s important to consider whether the boundaries in the relationship should change, too. Your mom has clearly decided that the boundary around discussing sex has opened up, while you still seem to be reluctant to discuss the subject with her.
Express your discomfort to your mother. Try being humorous and laughingly say, “Mom I’m not ready to have this kind of conversation with you.” See where this goes.
Alternatively, you can choose to give it to her straight, “Mom, I really appreciate being able to have these adult conversations with you, but since I am still your child, and you are still my mother, I feel this particular conversation is not appropriate. Who else are you able to you talk to?”
Your mom may try to guilt you, but remain firm and then change the subject. This way you are laying the boundary for how your relationship will progress from here.