“I tried honesty”
“In relationships I used to follow a mantra of ‘agree to disagree’ on everything from politics to personal issues. But I realised those values and beliefs are essential in my relationships and I decided to bring them to the forefront of my conversations and I look for someone who is on the same page as me. I even made a list of values and qualities on which I would not compromise – like being honest, spontaneous, kind, open-minded, self-starting and passionate.
About the same time I’d matched with a man on Tinder, and we chatted on the app for a couple of months. I was starting to get impatient because he hadn’t asked me on a date, so finally I said, ‘I’m going to delete your number if you don’t ask me out.’ When we went on a date the next day, I made all the plans. We started at a gay bar near my place – what if he didn’t believe in gay marriage? My future child could be gay! And I insisted that we split the bill. The date lasted more than six hours and we talked about everything from religion to abortion – on the first date! We’ve now been together for two years and have the most healthy relationship I’ve ever had because of our honesty with each other.” – Meredith, 24