You have the right to…
“I was abstinent in high school. I had the ultimate teen-movie boyfriend – a strong-jawed athlete – but I found it easy to refrain from sex. In university I realised why: I was a lesbian. Not sleeping with men came easily to me. The first woman I kissed became my first girlfriend. We were the only out lesbians at our Catholic school’s commencement ball.
“In time I’d go on to date all kinds of women, starting with Angelina Jolie lookalikes and ending with a wife who resembles James Dean. That’s one perk of coming out in a time and place when it wasn’t OK to be queer: I didn’t have preconceived notions about what I should like or do. I learnt to be open, to try things and to trust my body.
“And that’s my goal for you: I hope you surprise yourself. I hope you open yourself to the possibility of partners, toys and positions you never dreamt of trying. There’s so much you can figure out about yourself if you give yourself a chance.” – Cameron Esposito, comedienne