On motherhood and family…
My children are on my brain all day long. I always wonder where they are and what they are doing at this very moment.
I just try to encourage my children to be the best versions of themselves that they can be. I don’t want them to be versions of me or their father, or stepfather for that matter.
I think the unique goal of parenting is to find out what their passion is and what is uniquely them, and encourage them to be the best version of that.
Teenagers need you even more than younger kids. You need to talk to them. I tell my daughter all the time that I am not leaving unless she tells me what is going on. My mother worked, and I think it’s good for kids to see women working and being successful. I think it’s going to make them hard workers because they see that I don’t get much sleep.
No-one’s really doing it [motherhood] perfectly. I think you love your kids with your whole heart and you do the best you possibly can…. There are some sacrifices you make, and it hurts your heart sometimes, but my kids tell me they’re proud of what I’ve accomplished, and that just means everything. I grew up with a working mom … and I would never begrudge her that.
My dad was a doctor and my mom was a nurse. I think they thought I would pick the same profession. And it could have happened. I think it’s very confusing to find out what a perfect man is. What really is a perfect man? I think we expect a lot of men today.
They need to be breadwinners and great with the kids. We want them to be emotionally available, and at the same time tall and attractive and in great shape. That’s a lot to ask from anybody. It’s confusing right now what women are and what men are. I think we learn a lot from movies and different perspectives.
I love getting older because I feel much clearer about
things today. I am a lot more mission-based. I feel I know why I am doing things these days, and I am not just throwing things against the wall hoping they stick. I feel very clear these days. It’s a good feeling.
I got a lot of free therapy from Big Little Lies. I got a lot of answers from the other ladies. It was fun to share motherhood experiences with the younger ladies like Zoë [Kravitz] and Shailene [Woodley]. It was really cool. I would send everyone stupid mom memes like ‘mommy needs a drink’.
I am still vulnerable to close friends, but I am in my 40s, [so] I don’t care what people think so much. I am not [twisting] myself into a pretzel to make somebody else happy.