SARAH MUR­RAY*, 28,

MAR­KET­ING MAN­AGER

Marie Claire (South Africa) - - REAL LIVES -

On­line dat­ing isn’t for weirdos and Tin­der isn’t just for hook-ups or to see who of your friends are on it. You could very eas­ily meet your new boyfriend on­line. I’m built for sin­gle life. I have a great but very de­mand­ing job that takes up most of my time. I also don’t like men hit­ting on me in bars or restaurants. But I’ll try any­thing for a bit of fun, so when my flat­mate told me about Tin­der I thought I’d give it a go. The first few dates were quite a bum­mer. Men talk about them­selves more than women do, with very lit­tle en­cour­age­ment re­quired. Some guy told me all about his girl­friend and then asked me the equiv­a­lent of ‘your place or mine?’ An­other kept talk­ing about how much money he had – then made me pay! Luck­ily, I al­ways had a friend on standby to make The Res­cue Call. I went out with about six dif­fer­ent men, chat­ted with a few more on the app and matched with about 70 people be­fore I found him. Hon­estly, I swiped right be­cause he his pic­ture had a cute puppy in it. We de­cided to meet within an hour of me typ­ing, ‘You swiped right, I swiped right, now what?’ I sug­gested af­ter-work drinks on Long Street and that was the be­gin­ning of three months of amaz­ing mem­o­ries: din­ners at the best restaurants in the city; bet­ting on horses and end­less bub­bly drink­ing at The Queen’s Plate (a horse-rac­ing event), watch­ing sun­sets from Ta­ble Moun­tain and fab­u­lous weekend get­aways. My dream man is from Ger­many and was in Cape Town do­ing an in­tern­ship with a trans­port com­pany while await­ing the green light from the Ger­man govern­ment to start his own sus­tain­able shrimp­ing busi­ness. By the end of March he had to re­turn to Europe – and we’ve de­cided to keep it go­ing long-dis­tance. It’s ac­tu­ally much eas­ier than we had imag­ined. I am off to Mu­nich for two weeks at the be­gin­ning of Au­gust, but he seems on a mis­sion to come back to Cape Town be­fore that. Who knows, by the end of Au­gust one of us may be re­lo­cat­ing per­ma­nently.

‘I right-swiped my way to love’

SARAH WEARS COAT, R1 849, MARI AND ME; DRESS, R560, SHOES, R660, BOTH ZARA.

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