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Sex is a sensitive topic for most people to discuss and telling your partner you’d like to add some spice with a sex toy can be even more daunting. In the past, it was often said that men felt threatened by sex toys with a penis-like resemblance, but this is much less of a problem now,as new designs are sleeker and more discreet. As with any conversation about sex, it’s important to remember that it’s not necessarily what you say, but how you say it that matters.Timing is important; ideally, raise the topic when you’re both relaxed and enjoying each other’s company. Have some idea of what you want to say – perhaps even what toy you’d like to try – and why. Make sure your partner knows that you’d like to enhance your sex life as a couple and that it’s not about him not satisfying you. If you’ve never tried a sex toy before, I recommend starting small; perhaps a clitoris vibrator, which is not intimidating and perfect for that extra stimulation. Suggest that you look for something together to enjoy the experience
as a couple. A small, waterproof
low-frequency clitoral vibrator – use it warmed up or cold for different
This clitoral vibrator won the Cannes Lion Award for Design for its innovative ring design and has 10 different modes. The wand of this vibrator is firm but flexible and contains a ‘tingle tip’ setting to magnify sensation.