Q: IF I DON’T FEEL SPARKS ON OUR FIRST DATE, SHOULD I GIVE IT TIME AND SEE WHAT HAP­PENS, OR SET­TLE FOR JUST BE­ING FRIENDS?

Marie Claire (South Africa) - - HEALTH -

A: When it comes to re­la­tion­ships, and es­pe­cially men, I al­ways trust my gut. You know that lit­tle voice in­side your head de­mand­ing your at­ten­tion? That is your in­tu­ition, and you should give it a lis­ten and re­act ap­pro­pri­ately. We all an­tic­i­pate a rst kiss; that quiver of ex­cite­ment that pulses through your body when you first lock lips with a prospec­tive part­ner, and if that ex­cite­ment is miss­ing, you should stop for a sec­ond and gure out why. It could be that there just aren’t any but­ter­flies to be found – and that’s OK. The great thing about rst dates is that it doesn’t al­ways have to be fol­lowed by a sec­ond – and you can have as many as you like be­fore nd­ing that true spark. Don’t force it and let your­self move on to the next one. But be­fore you write him off af­ter a sin­gle spark-free date, see if he has other at­trac­tive qual­i­ties. Does he make you laugh? Is the con­ver­sa­tion stim­u­lat­ing and in­ter­est­ing? De­cide whether these other fac­tors are worth pur­su­ing – you may build a bet­ter con­nec­tion with him if you give it a chance. First im­pres­sions may not al­ways be ex­plo­sive, but they could lead to some­thing won­der­ful.

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