Q: WHAT DO I DO WHEN HIS PENIS IS UNCOMFORTABLY BIG (OR UNCOMFORTABLY SMALL)?
A: Changing positions and focusing on pleasure rather than performance can help. It won’t change his size, but this should help change your experience. If he’s uncomfortably big for you, try sitting on top or lying side-by-side facing him – if you have control over the amount of penetration, the depth of thrusting and the pace of sex, you can make it far more enjoyable for yourself. Use water- or silicone-based lubricant (oil-based products can lead to micro-tears in a condom as well as vaginal infection) to help make sex more pleasurable. Rock your pelvis back and forth rather than moving up and down or thrusting in and out. This will not only be more comfortable, but you’ll also receive indirect clitoral stimulation. If he’s too small, try positions that will lead to deeper penetration. Any position where he is behind you will feel more satisfying for you both, so try ‘doggy style’ or ‘reverse cowgirl’. Focus on teasing and pleasing each other in other ways – think erotic massage, stripteases or oral sex. Let sex be about how you can turn each other on and satisfy each other from head to toe, and not just on getting aroused and reaching orgasm.
OUR RESIDENT EXPERT Sexologist Catriona Boffard answers your most pressing sex questions