DOES LOOKING AT THIS PICTURE PUT YOU OFF SEX?
Millennials could have fewer bed buddies than their grandparents and celibacy is on the rise. Our hypersexualised society could be to blame, says NICOLA GILL
Suzie King runs website Platonicpartners.co.uk for men and women looking for celibate romance. In the last 18 months alone, she has seen a 20% rise in enquiries. ‘Most of those have been 20- and 30-somethings,’ she says, ‘which surprised me. The message I’m getting from them is that they are sick of the 360° hypersexualised, airbrushed, perfected images they are getting. Celibacy started as a backlash but I think it’s going to be the new normal.’
New research from Match.com found 49% of people in their 20s have had no sex in the last year and less than % have sex two to ve times a week. Another study predicted that millennials will have fewer partners in their lifetime than either Gen X or baby boomers. That’s less sex than their grandparents!
Trainee attorney Ellie Robinson*, 25, arrived at university as a virgin and felt nothing in three years that persuaded her it was worth changing that. ‘I’m not religious, I don’t think being a virgin makes me “special”, I do have a libido and I de nitely like masturbating it’s just that I’d rather put all that energy my friends pour into sex and dating into my career, hobbies and friendships.’
For advertising executive Iulia Calota, 35, 12 months of celibacy ‘began in a random guy’s tent at a music festival. For the rst time, I realised that I was badly hurting myself by sleeping with a guy I didn’t know and would never see again. It was like an addiction. More women should consider abstinence as a choice and get off the treadmill, allow yourself space and time to think about what you really want.’ Iulia is writing a book about her celibacy experiment (see her website Theloveproject.com for more). Now engaged, and back in the saddle, she says abstinence ‘made me feel more con dent, even sexier, not less.’