Marie Claire (South Africa) - - SEX REPORT -

Mil­len­ni­als could have fewer bed bud­dies than their grand­par­ents and celibacy is on the rise. Our hy­per­sex­u­alised so­ci­ety could be to blame, says NI­COLA GILL

Suzie King runs web­site Pla­ton­ic­part­ for men and women look­ing for celi­bate ro­mance. In the last 18 months alone, she has seen a 20% rise in enquiries. ‘Most of those have been 20- and 30-some­things,’ she says, ‘which sur­prised me. The mes­sage I’m get­ting from them is that they are sick of the 360° hy­per­sex­u­alised, air­brushed, per­fected im­ages they are get­ting. Celibacy started as a back­lash but I think it’s go­ing to be the new nor­mal.’

New re­search from found 49% of peo­ple in their 20s have had no sex in the last year and less than % have sex two to ve times a week. An­other study pre­dicted that mil­len­ni­als will have fewer part­ners in their life­time than ei­ther Gen X or baby boomers. That’s less sex than their grand­par­ents!

Trainee at­tor­ney El­lie Robin­son*, 25, ar­rived at univer­sity as a vir­gin and felt noth­ing in three years that per­suaded her it was worth chang­ing that. ‘I’m not re­li­gious, I don’t think be­ing a vir­gin makes me “spe­cial”, I do have a li­bido and I de nitely like mas­tur­bat­ing it’s just that I’d rather put all that en­ergy my friends pour into sex and dat­ing into my ca­reer, hob­bies and friend­ships.’

For ad­ver­tis­ing ex­ec­u­tive Iu­lia Calota, 35, 12 months of celibacy ‘be­gan in a ran­dom guy’s tent at a mu­sic fes­ti­val. For the rst time, I re­alised that I was badly hurt­ing my­self by sleep­ing with a guy I didn’t know and would never see again. It was like an ad­dic­tion. More women should con­sider ab­sti­nence as a choice and get off the tread­mill, al­low your­self space and time to think about what you really want.’ Iu­lia is writ­ing a book about her celibacy ex­per­i­ment (see her web­site Th­elove­pro­ for more). Now en­gaged, and back in the sad­dle, she says ab­sti­nence ‘made me feel more con dent, even sex­ier, not less.’

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