Becoming escorts made our marriage stronger
SKING SOMEONE THEIR ‘NUMBER’ – the sum of their sexual experiences – is one of those questions to which you can’t predict the answer. Take Rob and Bianca, for example. our years a o, nance worker Bianca’s number was two – including her husband. When friends would regale sex stories, she’d revert to the shy, Brazilianborn Catholic schoolgirl with the thick glasses. Today, however, the 28-year-old’s number is 1 000, which is what happens when you become one half of the most successful escort couple in New York.
It was a racy conversation that changed everything. In a bar one night, friends – high on wine-fuelled con dence – traded dirty exploits who had watched pornography, used sex toys, had a threesome. Bianca’s husband, Rob, now 34, played along by pretending they’d had sex in a club. ‘I was like, “Stop the lies!”,’ Bianca says. But she was intrigued ‘We had a good sex life, but didn’t watch porn or anything out of the ordinary,’ she says. ‘After Rob’s joke, I thought maybe he wants to spice it up.’ Interested in having a threesome but not wanting an encounter with a friend – and unsure how to approach a stranger – Bianca surprised Rob with a trip to a swingers’ club. But they lasted ve minutes, alarmed by both the older age of the clientele and the line of men receiving blow jobs from women clearly paid to be there.
The couple changed tack and googled ‘couples’ rather than venues. n a classi eds site, they came across a ‘young open-minded couple’ who they decided to contact and potentially meet. When Rob called, the guy explained he would need a ‘donation’ for their time. ‘We were so naive that we didn’t realise they were escorts,’ says Bianca. ‘Their pictures weren’t attractive; we thought, we have to pay you to hang out with us?’
This led to Rob’s light-bulb moment: they should post an advert o ering themselves as sexual playmates. It was, says Rob, more of a joke than a business move.
After their ad went live, the couple were so disturbed by how frequently the prepaid phone they’d bought rang that they hid it in a kitchen drawer. A month later, Rob dared to turn the mobile on again. Among the countless seedy pictures and dirty texts, one man’s voicemail caught their attention: he sounded well-spoken and very charming. They arranged for him to come to their home and together set ground rules to cope with the o -the-wall situation: Rob and Bianca would have sex and it would be a voyeur show for the stranger to watch and direct – there would be no kissing or touching their guest. Only, it didn’t exactly go to plan. irst, Rob panicked when he heard the man at the door. ‘I couldn’t believe it was happening. I freaked out and locked myself in the bathroom,’ he laughs. ‘ I’m sitting on the toilet, sweating… and suddenly I hear kissing. Then I really freak out! She’s not supposed to be kissing anyone.’
Rob stormed out of the bathroom to confront their guest. ‘When I saw them embracing – to my surprise – it was very arousing.’ The rule book immediately went out the window. Lost in what Rob calls ‘insane passion’, the three of them ended up having such intense sex that the visitor was 90 minutes late for dinner with his wife.
espite it being a ‘crazy, amazing experience’, Rob had mixed emotions about doing it again. ‘Sometimes images would replay in my mind of Bianca being intimate with the gentleman. Yes, I was turned on, but I was also a bit jealous.’
A few weeks later the couple switched on the phone again, and for the next six months regularly saw people. They maintained their ‘voyeur show’ rule until a client asked if he could touch Bianca – and it became more embroiled from there. ‘We’re now experts in the eld of fantasy ful lment,’ Rob says. Today, Bianca and Rob are the top-ranked ‘provider’ on The Erotic Review and erotic site Eros.com. They navigate the blurry line between escorting and trading sex for money by charging only for their time – not what happens within it. And, yes, the money is good – $600 an hour (about R8 500).
‘We’ve now experimented with every form of eroticism you can imagine – except anything to do with faeces or bloodshed or cute animals,’ jokes Rob. Interestingly, the couple also draws the line at working with other women. They tried it once with a heterosexual couple, but Bianca couldn’t tolerate seeing Rob orgasm with another woman.
Rob’s male sexual experiences started out as touching, then progressed to oral, and today cover the ‘ whole gamut of interaction’, except being on the receiving end of penetration. ‘I’m not bisexual,’ he says. ‘Bianca loves the male-on-male stu – I think it’s a common fantasy.’ While there is no typical client, curiously, it’s often the most atypical ones that lead to the best sex. Rob’s hottest sexual encounter was with a man with dwar sm. ‘ e hadn’t had much sexual experience and was so excited,’ he says. It’s this open-minded attitude that plays a part in their popularity. They use the word ‘friends’ instead of ‘clients’ and see 90% on a regular basis.
Bianca picks up on the sexual anxiety of their clients; directing single guys unsure how to kiss a woman and reassuring those worried about their genitals. ‘You can read about sex, you can watch movies, but you don’t learn,’ she says. And escorting has been something of a learning curve for Bianca herself: Rob will come home to nd her ‘as any one of 1 000 women’ – wearing a black wig, dressed as a stripper or ready to be tied up.
‘Our love is stronger as we’ve become more open,’ she says, but admits they have to employ some techniques to keep their connection the priority. ‘In a threesome or a foursome, always keep eye contact with your partner.’
One of the other boundaries is unspoken. Among their friends, colleagues and family, no one knows. Recently, however, they’ve been less concerned about anonymity. A year ago, reassured by their families living overseas, they decided to reveal their faces on their website Taboocouple.com. They now plan to take everything they’ve learned from escorting and use it to become certi ed sex coaches – a role Bianca thinks even her conservative mother might accept.
‘We’ve become experts in men’s sexuality and bisexuality, and coaching would let us talk over the phone, all over the world,’ she says. ‘We want to help improve marriages.’
‘WHEN I SAW THEM EMBRACING – TO MY SURPRISE – IT WAS VERY AROUSING’
Rob and Bianca